written by Erin Williams

If you stop to really think about what is real, you will begin to understand that most of the information we take in on a daily basis IS NOT REAL OR AUTHENTIC.  This includes every image we view in commercials, advertisements, television, “reality TV”, movies, magazines, as well as the image we create of ourselves by wearing certain designers, our Facebook personality, the conversation we have at the grocery store with someone we haven’t seen in a while….

            When you increase your awareness with the intention of seeing what’s real, it will certainly change your perception of the world around you.  Those feelings of not being good enough, thin enough, rich enough, young enough will LEAVE.  You will begin to understand that what you are seeing is NOT real.  One of my client’s who is a fashion model said to me, “I wish people really had an awareness of how much of what they are viewing is not real.  Take me in this picture for example; I don’t even own that purse I am carrying… it isn’t even my taste.  I look happy, seductive, even joyful, but the truth is my boyfriend had just broke up with me the week before, I was feeling self-conscious and miserable….they also changed the color of my eyes, airbrushed the hell out of my skin, and lengthened my legs.  I don’t even recognize that women.”I was so struck by her honesty and clarity.  If only we all understood this about the images we were taking in, we would not be so negatively affected.

Now that we have dismissed all the fakes, let’s look at “what is REAL???”  I was just watching a PBS special with Dr. Wayne Dyer, where he makes the claim that, “the only thing that is real is that which does not change.”  Since the only thing that is consistent and remains the same is the unconditional love of our higher self, this is truly REAL.  Therefore, if you have been defining yourself as anything other than this unconditional love of your soul, let go of it, because it is not real.  You are not your THINGS.  You are not your house, your image, your Facebook pictures, or your profession.  You are not your body…as beautiful as it may be.  All of these things are ever changing and are therefore are not REALLY YOU. 

So who are you?  You are a Goddess, a Wise Woman, a Sage, and a Prophet.  You are strength and beauty personified.  Are you acting as such?  Do you give yourself the amount of honor and respect that goes along with holding such titles?  God is all around us, but is also within you.  Your highest self is the same light, same Divine energy that is God.  Thus, you are also God.  This is not blasphemy; it is acknowledging your REAL Divine Self.   When we embrace the truth about ourselves, all the negative feelings of insecurity and wanting or needing more, dissipates. 

To really honor your highest self, wake up each day and reaffirm exactly what you are. 

Start with I AM….I am beautiful, I am grace, I am strength, I am a goddess, I am divine….and watch as you rise to new levels of awareness and peace. 

In Joy,

Erin Williams, LMSW, BCD, CHt

www.healingplacecounseling.com

Erin Williams

by Peter Kane, “The Monogamy Doctor”

People often claim to be listening when what they are really doing is calculating a rebuttal.  Although their rebuttal may be valid, responding to someone in a defensive way only escalates relationship conflicts.  People want to be “heard” and to feel heard they need to be “felt” as they express themselves.  If we can be truly present and feel someone as we listen, we create space for people to resolve their own feelings.  If we respond in a rational or defensive way things escalate because it encourages further reactions and response from the other.  As we react and respond to each other we are not listening or being present.  Things escalate and feelings don’t transform or release, instead they grow with increasing negativity.  When a conversation is filled with explanations, rational ideas or defensiveness, the emotional presence required for a more magical transformation is absent.

First, let’s acknowledge ourselves as pioneers on a path of learning to express ourselves and tell the truth.
Most of us were trained to avoid conflict, be quiet or subservient, and suppress our feelings.  It can be challenging to face our feelings and even more challenging to share them in a constructive way.

Listening requires us to slow down and be with what is being said, instead of thinking or calculating a rebuttal.  We may fear we’ll forget to say something important.  If discussion is needed it is best to save that for later.  Our time to express ourselves may come later in the same conversation or it may be another day.  It is also important for us to bring up our own issues at a more neutral time, instead of “piggy backing” and interjecting our issues into another’s expression as a form of defensiveness.

Defensiveness stems from the fear that we might be wrong or flawed in a deep way. It will be necessary for us to address our unconscious feelings of inadequacy, invalidation, and shame.  Our birth scripts, family histories, and other overt abuses result in our defending ourselves in an attempt to prove our worth or innocence.  This defensiveness, is felt by others as our fighting, and as if we started the fight.

Defensiveness is generated by our protecting ourselves, our old hurts, and our vulnerable inner-child.  When we defend ourselves and discussions escalate into arguments we are not even noticing that we are feeling hurts.  It is as if we get hurt but only allow ourselves to feel it for a fraction of a second.  Instead of dealing with the hurt we instead rely on our more rational, defensive or adult aspects to come to our aide and respond.  When we communicate this way we are unaware that the other person will feel attacked by our defensiveness.  They will feel our warrior while we are feeling our vulnerability but are unaware of how aggressively we are defending it.  It is as if two warriors are communicating on behalf of our vulnerable inner children and things escalate. 

The solution is to love each other enough to simply listen to each other’s hurts.

It is only after we can communicate without defensiveness that we can begin to address the deeper issues and triggers.  This is one central theme of my book and my work – to let go of the polarizations that create distance as our issues and personalities trigger each other.  The nature of relationships is that we will inevitably be in relationship with someone who possesses some traits and energies that are opposite ours.  At first we like the differences, and later we judge them and defend ourselves against them.

The process of working through our relationship issues will be aided by anything that helps us slow down and address our true feelings.  This includes counseling and also taking “time outs” to reflect on what we are really feeling.  We need time to let go of the fight or flight issues that create increased conflict.  Remembering that we love or appreciate someone will help us let go of our defensiveness and help them feel heard.

May we all have the strength to communicate patiently,

Peter

http://www.PeterKane.org

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We’ve all been there walking through a sea of eggshells.  We walk on our tippy toes in fear that we will crack them even more with every footstep.  I compare the eggshells with the proverbial elephant in the room.

Not sure which is worse?  The eggshells can crumble but the elephant can trample you.  Either one is not fun to have around.  I ask why do we even put up with walking on eggshells?  What’s the point?  I was having lunch with a girlfriend recently and she was telling me how she was walking on eggshells with her business partner.

The light bulb came on and I thanked her for giving me a blog idea. 

So the question I pose is why do we do it?

I would love to hear your voice and let us know in the comment area.

Here are some of my thoughts:

1.  To keep peace
2. To not make waves
3. We know the other persons personality and we don’t want to stir it up
4. We dance around reality
5. Denial – we rather not really know something so we swim in the river in Egypt D-NILE
6. We don’t want to face the facts
7. We want to avoid confrontation at all costs
8. We are afraid to hear or speak the truth

I’m sure there are many more reasons. 

Now is there a way we can STOP walking on eggshells?

Here are some of my thoughts:

1. We acknowledge the uncomfortable feeling of walking on those shells and take steps to change the way we think
2. We live in our truth and make a vow to ourselves that when we feel we are in that situation we exercise our inner BOLD and STOP in our tracks
3. We confront the issues that are creating the eggshells and hit them head on in total respect for the other person
4. Again, live in your TRUTH with no fear of how the other person reacts, remember we are not responsible for the reactions of other people

So here is to walking in your truth and no more eggshells.

Remember, may the possibilities of today excite you!

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I saw a post on facebook that stated: “Isn’t it funny how sometimes we RUN from our desires?  I find myself procrastinating the simplest things just because it’s a little uncomfortable.”  And I replied something to this manner – “time for CZR – Comfort Zone Removal.” 

We can write down goals all day long…..

It’s like writing a recipe for a cake, putting it in order is the second part and the third part is baking the cake.  So, many of us write down the recipe.  The idea of this delicious cake tickles our brain, and we can even imagine what it tastes like.  We are excited about one day making this cake and we can even envision ourselves eating the cake.  The problem is not in our imagination for it is vast, but it’s in execution of the plan.  The law of attraction states: THINK, BELIEVE and ACHIEVE.  Notice that ALL these words require ACTION!

I’m going to get a little scientific here, which required me to do some research and for those who know me, I love RESEARCH!  This is what I discovered.  We have 2 parts of our brain memory system – the explicit memory and the implicit memory. 

Explicit Memory

This is the part that gets us excited about our dreams, we talk about it, we put them on our dream boards.  The explicit memory is a type of long term memory, which requires CONSCIOUS thought – such as recalling who came to dinner last night, or naming animals that live in a zoo.  It’s what most people have in mind when they think of “memory,” and whether they have a good one or bad one.  This memory is often associative; so when you think of the ocean you think of a family vacation, you think about the long walks you’ve had on the beach with a loved one, or you may recall the healing powers of the water.  Okay enough on explicit memory, I think you get the point.

and now,

Implicit Memory

This part of the memory hangs out on the opposite side of explicit.  Implicit memory does not require conscious thought.  Examples are putting on your makeup, driving a car, walking, washing dishes (even though we want to sometimes forget that there are dishes to be washed).  This memory isn’t always easy to verbalize since it flows effortlessly in our actions. 

Now stay with me on this……

Thought energy is believed to travel faster than the speed of light.  The key is to match up your conscious goals of what you want to achieve, with the subconscious goals. This is when there is coherence between your goals, your visions and your dreams.  When they don’t line up there is chaos within your own system, and when there is chaos we revert back to what we know, and that’s our comfort zone.  I have heard it described as having a radio, and you have the radio in between stations, so you can hear part of one station and alot of the other station – this is the message that you are sending out to the universe.  The key is to getting coherence pattern in the sub-conscious level which takes a little more time then sitting down and writing your goals. 

NOW – where do we go from science?  We go right into reality -

PROCRASTINATON GETS IN THE WAY

So, when our excitement about our dreams and aspirations are there, what can possibly get in the way?  Yes, you got it – The dreaded word – PROCRASTINATION!

Well the good news is that you’re not alone – Statistics show that procrastination affects over 20% of the population; actually I was surprised by this low number!

HERE’S THE PLAN

We must identify the causes of procrastination and use strategies to overcome it.  Psychologists define procrastination as the conscious or subconscious avoidance of doing something, and if its effects are neglected enough, it becomes a habit that is extremely difficult to get rid of.

Procrastination is caused by a number of things.  Two of the possible causes may be FEAR and confusion.  So the good news is that if you tend to procrastinate, you have to modify your behavior.  In reality, accomplishments won’t come to you if you keep putting things off.  Why would we want to delay our dreams or projects that we may be working on?  We only have today (in reality – this moment)…..  We all have choices, either to succumb to procrastination or stand up and change your way of thinking and your behavior.  Doing this requires a HUGE amount of will power, dedication and determination.  We all have WILL POWER, so why not use it – let’s not have it go to waste…. for it is a precious gift!

ACTION LEADS TO REWARDS

There are many reasons for procrastination.  It’s when our procrastination leaves us feeling discouraged and overburdened, that is the time to take action and get out of our COMFORT ZONE – it’s time for CZR – COMFORT ZONE REMOVAL .  Action does lead to rewards.  So, as you consider your procrastination and struggle to develop different work habits be gentle with yourself.  Punishing ourselves each time we put something off won’t help you change.  REWARDING yourself when you make progress will!

WHY DO WE REMAIN IN OUR COMFORT ZONE?

1. Fear of Failure
2. Fear of Success
3. Fear of autonomy – “You can’t make me do this”
4. Basically FEAR

Whether these fears appear in our explicit or implicit memory, they paralyze us and keep us from taking action!

TIME TO CHALLENGE OUR MYTHS AND GET OUT OF OUR COMFORT ZONE – TIME FOR CZR

1. Ask for help – Get help from people that support you.  Remember, that’s why we have our girlfriends.
2. Get unblocked – Step out of your comfort level and make yourself do things that may be out of your comfort zone.  I recently did a teleseminar with 2 other ladies and my topic was, “Showing Compassion in the Workplace While Adding More Love to your Life”; the host rated it a 5 out of a 10 – I was thrilled to get a 5 out of a 10 because this was an opportunity for me to step out of my comfort zone and go into unknown territory.  It’s the topic that took me out of my comfort zone.  If I was to talk about “The Power of Friendship”, I would be back in my zone…..
3. Make yourself accountable – Set deadlines for yourself for a start, and be accountable to yourself.
4. Set a time limit – Be reasonable here – don’t set yourself up for failure.

In closing, we all procrastinate at some time or another.  Do yourself a favor and don’t let procrastination get in the way of your dreams, your accomplishments, and in turn from living your life at its full potential.  We only have one life to live, so why not live it at its fullest, with all its hopes and dreams…..

TAKE ACTION FOR THE REWARD IS GREAT!

Remember, may the possibilities of today excite us all!

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I recently heard a You tube video with Jim Rohn and he had a clip entitled, “The Day That Turns Your Life Around.”  For any of you that have not heard it, I will share his wisdom and the actual video.  Jim Rohn was mentor to Tony Robbins, inspirational speaker and motivator. 

Here are 4 words that can turn your life around:

1. DISGUST – I’ve had it!  E N O U G H – you have hit your you know what level.
2. DECISION MAKING – Time to clean up a list of decisions.  You make lists, you study the opportunities and now it’s time to actually take action.
3. DESIRE – Wanting something bad enough.  You hear a song, a sermon, a conversation with a friend that makes you think.  When we have our walls down, we can then welcome all experiences.  It starts with desire.
4. RESOLVE – Say I will do it and actually do it.  Promising yourself that you’ll never give up.  You don’t give up until it makes sense to give up.

When you don’t allow to let go of your past, it creates barriers and walls for your future.

Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.

Jim Rohn

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Happy Valentine’s Day – I thought a blog post on love would be appropriate for this day of LOVE - Hugh Prather in his book, “The Quiet Answer” states……

 “Love should be as effortless as breathing and as indiscriminate as falling snow.  Love is a state of mind or a vision that handles all things equally.  There is only one kind of love, the uncalculated kind.”

The word alone – LOVE – sets our minds dancing.  It stirs emotions in us and brings us to a state of bliss.  People talk about falling in love or like I often say rising in love –(it’s a more positive way of stating an action).  I reflect on Hugh Prather’s quote as I earlier stated and one thing that resonates in me:

Love should be as effortless as breathing and as indiscriminate as falling snow. 

If we took this statement and really contemplated it –

Then why do we make love so hard?  Why does it have to be so complex? 

Love involves the heart – to me it’s like a heartbeat – never skips a beat and always constant – without it we would be dead.  It’s as profound as the ocean in depth and its currents ebbs and flows – ebbs and flows.  Love is a selfless act – so many books, poems, songs and articles are written on this subject. 

We are all curious about it and lucky the ones that have truly loved and felt loved.  I am happy to report that I have been one.

Love triggers endorphins in our brains – we can’t stop thinking of that person, we imagine ourselves in their presence even when we’re not together.  It makes you feel happy and giddy.  I would simply describe it as magical.  You want to be in each other’s daily lives. 

There are so many types of love – romantic love, agape love, love for a child, love for our families, love for a stranger, and love for our friends; each stirring up different emotions and feelings.  As I sit and write this, I am watching and admiring a vast ocean and I am in love with the beauty of nature;  with the sun and its rays twinkling like fairy dust upon its surface.  As each new day dawns the love of life that’s experienced.  I just told an old friend this morning – I believe in love and have so much love to give – my heart is filled with it…….

There’s nothing more beautiful than seeing two people in love. 

For those who want love in your lives, I suggest you start visualizing what it looks like to you.  Call it onto yourself – it’s magical – be patient – it will come!  One thing that I ask is that you don’t settle – you deserve exactly what you want.  Trust your heart and believe that he’s out there especially for you.  Call it what you wish – the Law of Attraction, the Power of the Universe or as simple as I BELIEVE in LOVE for we are made in the image of LOVE!

Sometimes you have to love yourself and that other person to let them go if you are in a toxic relationship.  At this point, it’s also love to let go…..

Before I end this blog on love – one most important thing – you MUST learn to love yourself before you can ever love another.  In the movie Jerry McGuire he tells Renee Zellweger – “You Complete Me” – I say, no one can complete you but certainly can strengthen you – so maybe a better line would be – “You Strengthen Me” – but you know Hollywood and completions sounds better than strengthening…..You must complete yourself before anyone else can complete you.   So like I often say my religion is love, love and more love.  You can never give enough love; so GIVE, GIVE and GIVE some more!

Remember, may the possibilities of love today excite us all!

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Paul Boese, a botanist who lived in the late 1600s early 1700s once stated, “Forgiveness does not change the past but it does enlarge the future.” I pondered on this quote, and the more I pondered the more aware of his words and meaning.

To forgive is not to forget, but forgiveness is the first step in healing ourselves.  We have to start somewhere.  Forgive someone that has wronged us, not due to the fact they deserve to be forgiven but only because we love ourselves so much that we don’t need to keep carrying the un-forgiveness baggage around.  Believe me it truly weighs you down.  How many people do you know including yourself that carry this heavy burden around all day and night with them?  They are the ones that have the bitter faces because they don’t know how to forgive another for their injustice to them.

To forgive means to heal.  Healing ourselves is the way to wholeness.  To be the best person we can be for ourselves first.  To forgive is to be noble.  I often state to people when I speak of forgiveness – “If our Creator has forgiven us so many times over for our failings, how can we be more powerful and Omni-potent than HIM and not forgive our fellow man.”  By not forgiving we make ourselves larger than life and larger than our Creator.  Believe me we are not that BIG my friends.

Forgive because we LOVE ourselves!

Learn then to forgive, you will get rid of so much weight and excess baggage off your shoulders and in your heart; but don’t forgive haphazardly, forgive with your whole heart – mean it – say it – you will release so much and not only that you will feel empowered!  Forgive your parents, your brothers, sisters, friends, forgive GOD!  Forgive yourself for all your mishaps and failings – acceptance will begin at that time.  So take the time to write that letter to someone that has wronged you, or make the phone call to let them know that they are forgiven.  It’s a beautiful thing and so much joy will be awaiting you.

The acceptance and love of self is to forgive.

You will definitely know when you have forgiven someone – when you see the person or a picture of them and it does not cause any emotional reactions.  Believe me its freeing – it’s an emotional release – it’s so healing and it moves you to a place of peace.  Going back to that quote from Paul Boese, our past cannot be changed, but surely our futures can be enlarged by the choices we make and my only hope is that someone can read this and it may stir a change in them in a way that they will either forgive someone or ask for forgiveness from someone in their life.

Remember, may the possibilities of today excite us all!

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by Peter Kane

While I have coached my clients about how to best use online dating sites for many years it was only a few years ago I tried it for myself. I have only used Match.com a few times since and each time I would only have my profile visible for a week or two. A few of the times I pulled my profile because I had met someone with whom I was pursuing a relationship. Other times, I hid my profile because I wanted privacy – I felt sensitive to having my profile seen in the community and wanted to reduce the chances of my clients seeing it.

Of all my opinions and experiences with online dating, when to hide or remove your profile, is probably the area where my feelings have changed or expanded the most. At first, I nearly felt that if I kissed someone that I should hide my profile (and vise versa). As a man who has a strong investment in being sexually appropriate and respectful, I certainly felt that once I was clear that I wanted to be lovers with someone that I should remove my profile. I also felt vulnerable if the other person kept their profile visible when they were seeing me.

I was once even offended and hurt when someone with whom I had a strong second date (which included some kissing, and plans to see each other again soon), seemed to be very active online, or as Match said “online now.” I had another woman whom I became lovers with keep her profile up, and when I asked her about it she said ‘she wanted to be monogamous but she also felt we should be open about meeting other people….. And, if she did become lovers with someone else that she would not expect to continue seeing me.’ She did take her profile down soon after, only to put it back up again weeks later. While I am not the most jealous person in the world I did instinctively know to look for her profile, and when I saw it, I discussed it with her and told her I could not go “deep” with someone who was “shopping.” Her Facebook page seems to indicate that she was shopping for someone with more discretionary income than I had.

I had another two-month relationship with someone I met on Match.com end when she put her profile back up without telling me. When I asked her about this, she said ‘that’s how I meet friends.’ I promptly ended that too.

So, what is right for you? What do you need? Here are some variables I think it is helpful to consider:

-Hiding or removing your profile may help to develop trust.

-We also need to move as slow as we can, and some people may feel pressured of suffocated if you remove your profile.

-Discuss this with the person you are dating and be clear on what it all means to each of you.

-Try to not behave like an addict that is always online. That’s not sexy.

-Remember that we can’t trust Match.com’s clock or what it really means to be “online now.”

-Consider minimizing the time you go online by: Not responding to emails that don’t interest you; Saving or printing profiles that interest you so you can look at them again without being online; Doing all your correspondence once or twice a week; and moving to regular email with people you are communicating with ASAP. I am guessing the validity of these ideas would vary from site to site, and would change over time as these sites change. Do you do these? What else?

-Additionally, I think it is best to not have your profile up for long periods of time. The first week I tried Match, I had a very sweet woman tell me ‘Peter, you don’t want to keep your profile up for too long, it is weird seeing the same people over and over.’ As time went on I definitely noticed this too. There were times when I wasn’t seeing anyone and would look at profiles, and I would see the same people over and over. In general, I think most of us are less likely to trust these people. We are apt to view them as players or serial daters.

-Remember your worth. It might be a good thing if the person you are dating is still online. It might help them realize how amazing you are.

This last idea speaks the most to what has evolved for me about online dating and when to hide or remove your profile. I have relaxed a bit. How someone deals with their profile and how they communicate with me would still be a key to my trusting them (See Internet Dating Parts I-IV). I would also remember to be impeccable, congruent and integral with your own participation. But also try to relax and see life as a global village of friends, who in this case, are trying to find a pen pal, friend, lover or partner.

And as a central theme of my book says:

May we all have “The Strength to Want.”

Peter

http://www.peterkane.org/

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“The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them.”—

Ralph Nichols

Have you ever been in a situation that you needed an “ear” from a friend – someone that could be there and allow you to talk, cry or just vent?

BUT INSTEAD….

You get someone that gives you advice, tells you what you should do and isn’t giving you what you need…..

So I dedicate this post to all of you that have given your ear and time to listen.  KUDOS and GOOD JOB!

So many times in life we want a good friend that can sit by us and truly listen – the word here is:

L I S T E N

No voice, no advice only to listen.  The listener allows you to vent, to cry, and to express your feelings.

This is a true joy to have a friend that allows this gift.  Yes, it truly is a gift.

We all can be better listeners.

We have agendas; we don’t want people to hurt.  We want to offer advice and solve problems.

B U T

Not always do we need someone to solve our problems.  Not always do we need advice.

S O ME T I M E S

We want someone to JUST LISTEN.

So next time you’re in a situation where a friend comes to you and wants to “TALK” it might be a good thing to ask –

“Did you want me to just listen?”

O R

“Do you want my opinion and advice?”

This shows compassion, love and respect for the individual.

Remember, may the possibilities of today excite you!

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It occurred to me as I was rushing this morning at 7 am to my BFF’s house, to provide emotional support for her during a heated financial “discussion” with her ex-husband, all the things we just “do” when asked. We cancel appointments;  take time off of work; slip into small, mirrored, badly lit dressing rooms to give honest critiques; loan our best clothes; tell the truth -  no matter what.

 When called upon we “just do it”, even when we don’t want to, because that’s just what women do for women.  We lie, fabricate, pretend, tread where other do not dare. We become warriors for each other – warning others “not to go there.” We share yucky secrets  (the one’s we can barely put into words), like that one-night stand we’ d really rather forget. We hold each other’s hands during scary biopsies, and sit for hours in divorce courts. We drive to colonoscopies, plastic surgeons, pediatricians, ex mother in laws — but mostly, we listen. We learn to recognize the small shifts in each other’s voices that tell us it’s time for a lunch or a drink or a long phone conversation, even if it’s the same conversation we’ve been having for years. We simply LISTEN – and we never, ever bring it up again, no matter what. We tell each other the hard stuff like “you’re drinking too much,” “you need to lose a few pounds,” “take my hair appointment, you need a trim,” “I ran into your boyfriend where he shouldn’t have been.”

 And we love each other fiercely, instinctively and often longer than many marriages.

 LONG LIVE GIRLFRIENDS!!!!!

BIO:  

Patti Hawn is author of GOOD GIRLS DON’T a deeply personal first-hand account of what it was like to be trapped in an unwanted pregnancy at the close of an era where home economics took precedence over sex education. I gave up my child for adoption —-found him 40 years later…but this is where the typical adoption story begins…and ends. My book is available on Amazon and www.goodgirlsdontbook.com.

Patti Hawn Patti Hawn has worked on over thirty major motion pictures including some of the most acclaimed films of the last decade.  Her credits include Ghost, Glory, Overboard, and most recently, August Rush and Bride Wars.

Patti makes her debut literary effort with her memoir, GOOD GIRLS DON’T, that tells the story of the last generation of young women to experience life on the eve of the sexual revolution of the sixties and the passing of legislation legalizing abortion. It is a unique time in history, foreign to an entire generation of women, that resulted in an incredible number of reunions between birth parents and their children — 20, 30 and 40 years after.

Patti is the sister of the acclaimed actress Goldie Hawn. She resides in Manhattan Beach, California with her husband and travels to India, Nepal and Thailand where she works in humanitarian efforts.

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