Hello Girlfriends – “Alone Time” – some of us crave it and others fear it!  To crave and to fear are polar opposites.  The women I’ve encountered that have busy family lives, with husbands, children and an array of activities, long for the 5 minutes of quiet and tranquility.  The women that have just gotten out of  a relationship and are newly separated or divorced fear it.  So where is the happy median?

To some alone time means privacy; to others it may be time to sort through feelings.  A time we can have all to ourselves and do exactly what we please to do, without any guilt.

I find it so important to have time alone without any distractions from significant others, children, anyone else living in your households.  A time where you can be alone with your thoughts, your ideas and most importantly with yourself!  A time where we can decompress and just breathe!

The trouble is that we don’t take the time to be with ourselves without distractions.  I stated earlier that some of us have a fear of being alone and spending time with ourselves.  I believe at first it will feel awkward, but the more you spend time with yourself, the more you will get use to it and be comfortable with this time alone.  Trust me when I say this because in the last several years, I’ve spent much time alone.  I would not even consider when I was married to have dinner alone, and the very rare occasion that I would, I’d feel a little uncomfortable.  Now I sit at restaurants alone, go to movies alone, go for long walks alone and feel perfectly comfortable doing it.  Even if you are in an intimate relationship, I definitely recommend you spend time alone once in a while.  Do it for yourself – its part of loving and nurturing yourself. 

It can be quite rejuvenating to the soul this alone time that we may desperately need.  Things can become so much clearer when we’re by ourselves.  We can sort through our feelings and our thoughts during this alone time.  It’s the chatter of our daily lives, the monkey talk or “stinkin thinkin” that fills our brains; just like a computer needs to be turned off every now and then, we too need to be turned off every so often.  I call it a REBOOT!

Try getting away by yourself either for 1 hour, ½ day, or a whole day and then come back to your families, your activities and notice how much better you feel and how much better you’ll be for your significant others and even more importantly for YOURSELF!

Remember, may the possibilities of today excite us all!

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