We set ourselves up for disappointment when we expect…….instead of accepting.

My Question is: 

“Why don’t we drop our expectations and open ourselves up to being pleasantly surprised by life and the people around us each day?”

Allowing your past and yourself to be proven wrong, while accepting and looking for new possibilities or behaviors that you like; can free you up to receive amazing results.

What’s normal and expected isn’t always what life delivers – these are the surprises, the AH-HA moments, the triumphants or the disappointments that come our way.

When there are expectations in life and these expectations are not met, resentment happens towards another and yourself.  When we expect to be the best and we don’t do our best in our perfect minds, then we disappoint ourselves; don’t get me wrong here, I am a proponent to strive for your best, but the key here is to not be so hard on yourself when you fall short of the best.  To live in expectations is so much more difficult then living in acceptance.  Think of the times that you’ve been in expectation.  Let’s take for example you have a new love in your life or even an existing love and your birthday is coming up.  He comes to you and says:

“I have a very special surprise planned for us for Saturday night for your birthday.”

Right away our surprise sensory goes off in our brain and we start to manufacture these great surprises, we envision, we know that he knows exactly what we want and thus it’s in the bag and we feel even more excited.  We can’t wait until Saturday night we may even go as far as asking a few times because we can’t stand it.

What is it about surprises that we love so much but yet can’t wait to hear what that surprise is?

Saturday rolls around and you are expecting to be surprised.  Remember the expectation has been building as each day goes by.  You get ready and you leave the house and what you expected and hoped to happen does not!

Disappointment fills your heart because your plan was for a romantic candlelight dinner for two, maybe even flowers thrown into the mix.  You are not happy – you expected something else and you got another!

How could all this have been different?

ONE WORD – ACCEPTANCE….

To accept a surprise was coming your way and being in gratitude from the first time you heard that something was being done for “YOU”; instead of creating expectations in our heads and later being disappointed.  Living life at it’s fullest - living in the spirt of the moment!

In optimism there is MAGIC

In pessimism there is NOTHING

In positive acceptance there is thrill of SUCCESS

So next time we are confronted with expectations versus acceptance which road will you choose?

Do you have a story to share where you expected and you were disappointed?

Remember, may the possibilities of today excite us all!

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Unchained Melody ~ I invite you to watch the music video and feel the love….dedicated to each one of you that know love or have experienced love……

If one wishes to know love, one must live love, in action.  Leo Buscaglia

We are all born from Gods’ love – we die with Gods’ love and we do all we can do to find love in between our birth and our death.  Searching, seeking and longing for that true love……we were created to LOVE….

What is it about LOVE and why is it so hard to find?

I’m certain there are thousands upon thousands of stories written on the subject of ecstacy and longing.  Music galore about rising in love or falling out of love and many sonnets written about the heart connection.

We find love, we spend time with love, and know this must be LOVE, and then we do all we can to sabotage love, and walk away from it, in order to go find a more suitable love, for we think the grass is greener on the other side.    

I really don’t get it – Do you?

Is love an emotion, a feeling, a verb or noun?  The road to love can be long or not so long, can be lovely, can be adventurous, can be filled with joy or pain, can be a multitude of things.  I looked up the definition of love and this is what I found.  Love is a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.  When I Googled, “What is it about love,” I found:  QUIZ: Is it Love?  WOW – now you can take a quiz to make sure it’s love! (I’m not sure if I want to do that)…..

Scientists say that the brain chemistry of infatuation is akin to mental illness – which gives new meaning to “madly in love.”

Love is about how the other person makes you feel.  The fact of the matter is that love involves non-verbal reactions – synaptic (chemical) connections within our brains.  Since I love to research, I did some research on LOVE. 

I discovered that the species that stick to one mate usually have a rich flow of another chemical called vasopressin, the “monogamy” chemical.  Experiments done with males injected with this chemical brought out all the evidence needed.  Isolating males before and after mating, he was indifferent to all females.  But 24 hours after mating, he is hooked for life.  The jealous husband syndrome sets in too.

Another chemical is oxytocin, the “cuddling” chemical.  It promotes the need to be physically held, have close contact with the mater, and makes the sexes more caring.  It can be released simply by a lover’s look, smell or even a fantasy.

When infatuation subsides, another chemical takes over which is responsible for intimate relationships, these chemicals are created by endorphins.  They make a relationship steadier, intimate, dependable, warm and a great sharing experience.  They do not induce a giddy high, but calmness and stability….hence the reason why people stay married.  This chemical is addictive so the longer a couple stays married, the longer two people stay together.  It is endorphins that trigger grief on a spouse’s death or long separation, those yearnings for togetherness.  Adrenaline love is being in love with the idea of being in love.  With endorphin love, we like loving someone. 

There are foods that can intensify love…..

We eat aphrodisiacs (named after the Greek Goddess of Love – Aphrodite) to enhance love:  chocolate, oysters, turtle eggs eaten raw with salt and lime (haven’t tried this one yet); asparagus, almonds, avocado, bananas, basil, figs, garlic and honey.  It was suggested by a very “special man” in my life – “Why not prepare a dinner to include each of these foods?”

Now that we know about the chemicals and foods involved in the “love” process:

What is it about love and the longing to have it in our lives?

There are so many dating sites to meet the “ONE” but yet we are lonelier and lonelier as a society.  Here are a few statistics from Match.com:  People over age 50 makes up Match.com’s fastest growing segment of users, with a 300% increase since 2000. 

WHAT is that all about?

Is it because our biological clocks of younger years is ticking away and we wake up one day with more wrinkles and the reality that we are not getting any younger and no one to share our golden years with…..

I WANT A PARTNER/MATE NOW SYNDROME?

 75% of women and 81% of men in their 50s experience a serious, exclusive relationship after a divorce.  (this to me is great news)

There really are a lot of fish in the sea:  According to the Census Bureau, 29% of adults age 45-59 are now single, compared with only 19% in 1980. 

I listen to so many single women and I hear, “Where are the men?” I listen to so many single men and they say, “Where are the women?”  They must “NOT” be out there since I’m hearing the same thing from both sexes; or are they and the real reason we haven’t found the ONE for us is because we have been so busy in dating so many men and men women, that it’s been a distraction in truly discovering ourselves out and working on US?  I read in Don Miguel Ruiz book, The Mastery of Love that we must be 100% complete in ourselves in order to attract that perfect one for you.   Once you accept yourself just the way you are, the next step is to accept your partner.

It makes sense to me, does it you?

If you have the eyes of love, you just see love wherever you are, even in the imperfect – Wabi Sabi.  When you perceive with the eyes of love, you can connect your will with the will of another dreamer, and the dream becomes ONE.  Then you can see with the eyes of an eagle or transform into any kind of life.  With your love you connect with the eagle and you become the wings.  But to do this, you need to clean the mind of fear and perceive with the eyes of love.  If you can open your heart completely to your partner, you can reach heaven through your love.

When we fulfill the needs of our mind and our body, our eyes see with love.  We see God everywhere.  I love what Don Miguel Ruiz says, “But when we know that our heart is a magical kitchen, we are always generous, and our love is completely unconditional.”  I love the anology of our heart being a magical kitchen…..

I believe we have this “Jerry McGuire” notion of love in the famous line from the movie where Tom Cruise tells Renee Zellweger , “You complete me.”  Are you kidding me – why did they not edit that line from the movie?  Hey, it’s Hollywood and they can say anything to make us say, “AWWWWWHHHHHH – why doesn’t anyone say that to me????”  So we look for someone that can say to us, “You complete me.”  I believe a better term may be – “You compliment me.”……. It truly is a beautiful gift to us when we compliment and not complete.  I much rather use the term from the movie, “As Good As It Gets” where Jack Nicholson tells Helen Hunt, “you make me want to be a better man.”

Once we awaken to self and clean up our houses (our temples -mind and body), then the awakening is like being at a party where there are hundreds of people and everyone is drunk except you.  You are the only sober person at the party.  Most humans see the world through their emotional wounds, through their emotional poison.  Here lies the problem of not being awake and aware.

When in the awakened state, your heart is an expression of the Spirit, an expression of Love, an expression of Life.  It’s being aware that you are Life.  When you are aware that you are the force that is Life, anything is possible.  Miracles happen all the time, because those miracles are performed by the heart.  The heart is in communion with the human soul, and when the heart speaks even with the resistance of the mind, something inside you changes; your heart opens another heart, and TRUE LOVE is possible.  It’s in opening another’s heart there lies the chemicals, the passion, the Love that we are ALL either trying to find or keep.

My girlfriend Giovanna stated it so eloquently to me this past week, “almost all relationships start with what can I “get” from it rather then what can I “bring” to it; I believe that we have to be selfless and selfishness abounds us these days….the other part is to choose wisely.  We tend to choose what is familiar to us whether it feels good or not because it is what we know…we change it by our thoughts about ourselves, our actions and constant vigilance of those thoughts…..BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!

WE MUST FEEL WORTHY OF LOVE FOR LOVE TO COME…..

Love enables you to stand for yourself in an honorable and gracious way; with no hidden agendas; with no room for negativity.  In its purest form – UNCONDITIONAL!  My friend Jimmy has a website Life Architects and stated it this way on my guest blogger Angie’s comments on, “Only Time Can Reveal If It’s Real“:  “true love is attached to us with invisible ties. These ties connect our spirits and souls that only we can understand.”

For the MAGIC of love and the volumes written and sung about it; it continues to afflict us generation after generation.

So the bottom line in all this LOVE talk is we are put on this earth to experience LOVE in its purest form – to get closer to our GOD for HIS love is unconditional – and in so doing we discover that HE is LOVE, LIGHT and TRUTH – all the things that we search for in a lifetime are all wrapped up in our Divine.  We crave all these things in human form – so it is in acquiring the eyes of GOD and having your eyes fixed on HIM, then this should make the love process easier to find and keep, for love never fails…..  

Where there is GREAT LOVE, there are GREAT MIRACLES…..

L’amore vince tutto (Love conquers all)…. (Italian)

I invite you to share your thoughts on this?

Remember, may the possibilities of today excite us all!

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Hello Girlfriends -

Dr. Martin Luther King wrote, “courage faces fear and thereby masters it.” 

When we come to the edge of all the light we have and we must take a step into the darkness of the unknown.  We must believe one of two things;’ either we will find something firm to stand on, or we will be taught to fly. It takes courage to fly!

I would say have the courage to ACT and to FLY - you want a new job, a new beginning, a better relationship – why wait? ACT now!

Courage and fear are polar opposites.

It takes courage not to fear! Fear is debilitating, but courage is empowering! Fear keeps us stuck, but courage keeps us moving.

Believe in yourself, believe in your passion, believe in your dreams (no matter how big or small they may be).

Change requires not to fear but to have courage. Take the baby steps you need to pull yourself in the direction of your dreams! You notice I said baby steps – I didn’t say giant steps. One foot in front of the other. The motion will take you to the next level.

Dream BIG- life is too short not to dream big! Be the one writing the book instead of the one reading the book. Write the best novel for your life – write your new story.

In the wind of change we find our new direction.

It takes courage to really live, it takes courage to be open to new ways of thinking. Make it happen, it’s up to you now!

Fear gets in the way, especially fear of the unknown. Can you replace that fear with courage instead? We get in a pattern and if fear has been in that pattern we continue to have fear as our driving force.  How about replacing the fear with courage instead.

Be courageous in doing things differently, change requires courage.

Look within, discover where you are? Do you live from fear or from courage? It’s time you lived out of courage and be excited about life and all it has to offer.  Take the steps in the direction of courage  and start living!

Remember the Wizard of Oz

Remember, may the possibilities of today excite us all!

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Hello Girlfriends – This post was sparked by a random seat that I happened to take at a local restaurant bar counter.  As I took my seat, I noticed a young man in his 20′s sitting there with a stack of note cards in front of him.  I immediately thought he is studying for something and needs to memorize.  I later found out that he was a helicopter pilot for the U.S. Marine Corp.   I was there with my daughter and as my daughter got up to step outside for a few minutes, he turned to me and asked this question….

How do you live your life to the fullest?

At first I was taken by surprise and didn’t really think he was talking to me.  In fact, I glanced over my back to make sure there wasn’t anyone else there.  I thought pretty deep question for a bar counter discussion with a total stranger….I even asked him if he was talking to me?  Of course he was!

SO

I paused and allowed my heart to speak from my TRUTH.  I looked within for a moment and answered:

“By living in the moment……”

My girlfriend Marci Calantonio has an eloquent way to bring people back to the moment and realize we truly ONLY have the moment.  She states, “look down at your feet – where are they planted right now”?  They are right in front of you and since you can actually see them then you are in this moment.  This is the only place you can be right now.  If your mind is someplace else, bring it back to where your feet are – you must be aligned with your mind, body and spirit.

You are only living where your feet are.

By focusing in the PAST you bring the past to the moment and the past doesn’t serve the moment.  We learn and gain insight from the past and then we release it to the…..

Proverbial Past Abyss.  Ciao for now baby!

To live in the total fulfillment we must stay focused in the HERE AND NOW…..

To be focusing on the FUTURE – not such a good idea either, for the future is not right here and right now.  It has its fair amount of uncertainty  and why even go there unless you are into stressing about the future.  Of course, don’t get me wrong – we must plan for the future and have it in our peripheral vision – not the same as worrying about the future and living in the future.

I chose to live in joy and gratitude for all my experiences (good, bad or indifferent) and I meet each new day with a smile.  Look into each experience which comes to you for some grain of happiness.

Be your own best friend and let the world know you’re happy to be alive!

If you ever get asked the question:

“How Do You Live Your Life To The Fullest?”

How will you answer?

I invite you to share your thoughts on living your life at its fullest……….

Remember, may the possibilities of today excite you!

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 The Power of Words - The Video Link

Hello Girlfriends – Lisa Darden, a friend from my Facebook Group, “The Women of Facebook” shared this video.  I’ve watched it before but on that particular day my heart was stirred to write a post on it.

The video can be accessed by the above link- Notice the words on the simple signage that the blind man wrote…..

“I’M BLIND PLEASE HELP”

The Good Samaritan with her distinguishable shoes took time out of her day to change the blind man’s perspective and stated…….

“IT’S A BEAUTIFUL DAY AND I CAN’T SEE IT”

(the words “beautiful” and “see” stand out so vividly)…..

I have written about the power of the word before under a different subject line – I AM Statements.  The post spoke of the power of TWO words……

I AM…..

The Way we say things can be taken as negative or it can be taken as positive.  In this lovely feel good video, the blind man wrote a plea for help – for monetary assistance.  By changing his words and adding ……

“LIGHT” (SIGHT)

to his words he reaps the benefits of the beauty of the day.  He’s no longer blinded by his words but enriched by the givers of money!

HOW DO WE SPEAK?

We can say the same thing two different ways but get better results when said with a “positive” life affirming tone.  For me I want to be more aware when I speak.  When I’m talking to people, I remind myself by simple statements to myself such as, “notice what you are saying, and the tone you use when you say it.”

DO YOU COME FROM A PLACE OF LOVE?

There’s an old saying, “you catch more bees with honey.”

It’s the sweet essence of words that flow with true intention that color our world.

So in this video I see a beautiful soul that was aware of herself and made a choice to reach out to make a difference in a blind man’s world.  We truly must be aware of the world around us and the words we create with each breath we take.  Are they life affirming or are they not?

THE POWER OF THE WORD

Think of a time that you were around a negative person.  Can you remember the words that were flowing from their mouths?  Can you remember how you felt?

NOW

Think of a time that you were around a positive person.  Can you remember the words that were flowing from their mouths?  Can you remember how you felt?

I’m sure the first scenario as you thought of the situation you were in made you cringe a bit.  Didn’t bring love and light into your heart.  The second scenario probably made you smile, feel joy and certainly brought love and light into your heart.

I ask each one to a CALL TO ACTION

Let’s together hold each other accountable for the words we use in the course of the day.  Let’s be aware of what comes out of our mouths to the people we interact with.

Remember, may the possibilities of today excite you!

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Hello Girlfriends – Today I wish to talk about a topic that was instrumental to me in developing MakeGirlfriends.com, and one that is creating much debate among all age groups. 

Cyber friendships compared to Traditional friendships. 

The difference of opinion goes like this, and please understand that I am talking generalities here as there are extremes in every case:  the “older” generations hold the belief that the world is becoming far too technical, mobile, cyber centered, and that we are losing critical interpersonal skills in the process; the “younger” generations feel that cyber networking is the normal way to develop relationships, and that the “old folks” just don’t get it. 

Well, as always, I have my own opinion on this matter, and it falls somewhere in the middle.

The inevitable and onward march of technology has no opinion in the matter, for it is only a tool for us to use as we see fit.  Modern technology has given us the ability to communicate, and make “friends” with others on a global basis. Facebook, Twitter, Instant Messaging, Email, and Text Messaging have all made it possible to have “friends” that we never meet, and will in all likelihood never meet, face to face.   I’ve seen people on Facebook who have over a four thousand friends. 

I ask myself is that realistic? 

The easy answer is to say of course not, nobody can possibly have that many friends, but when I ponder it deeper I come up with a plethora of different answers.  Maybe the definition of “friend” needs to be updated.  Maybe we can have thousands of friends in this new cyber world.  Perhaps face to face interaction is no longer necessary for a friendship to develop.  Maybe we are better off communicating with each other via our computers and phones rather than look someone in the eye and actually talk to them.  All of these wonderful leaps in technology have given us the ability to communicate with everyone and by doing so we get a sense of self importance. 

We update our various “profiles” with the latest, greatest things that are happening in our lives, we let everyone know what music we are listening to, what our mood is, where we are going and where we have been, BUT, does anyone really care?  Do all of our cyber friends have any real desire to know that we are listening to Katie Perry, that we are feeling melancholy, going hiking this afternoon, and had a bad experience at the grocery store last night?  Probably not, but by announcing all these things to our multitude of friends we get the sensation that people out there really care.  We give them a thumbs up, post witty things to their wall, punch them back, wink at them, and the list goes on and on.  How many of these people care enough about us to be a real friend? 

When life becomes tough are they there to watch us cry, listen with a compassionate heart, and give us a sincere hug as our tears flow?  Only a real friend can do this, someone that we have a real life relationship with, a person that has intimate knowledge of “us”, and not simply the cyber face that we present to the world.  These friends see us in action and are the impartial judges of whether our actions match our words.  They are the ones who might know the cyber us, but you better believe that they know the “the real us”, and hold us accountable for both personas. 

Perhaps the whole debate can be summed up by saying that we have multiple different friendships. 

Our cyber communities allow us to reach out, share information, become involved in  lively debates, and form friendships that are limited to how we portray ourselves via words; our cyber face.  Our face to face friends allow us to use our interpersonal skills to interact with one another on a person and intimate level to build true and lasting relationships.  These friends see us for who we really are and they hold us accountable to our impeccable word by watching our actions.  Technology provides us with the mechanism to locate those who we share similar interests with, but in order to forge true and lasting friendships there is still no replacement for looking someone in the eye when talking to them, and using our intuition to determine if that person has what it takes to be our “friend”.  

My hope is that MakeGirlfriends.com provides each of you with another tool that can be used to meet those who you can develop real world friendships with.

“Remember, may the possibilities of today excite us all!”

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Hello Girlfriends – Tony Robbins (American self-help author and motivational speaker) stated, “We limit ourselves to our true potential.  We are afraid to ask for too much in life.  We have a sense of guilt to want it all so in turn we settle.  We settle for less pay, we settle for mediocracy, we settle for the so-so relationships.

THE QUESTION HERE IS, “WHAT ARE WE ASKING, AND ARE WE SPECIFIC IN WHAT WE ARE ASKING?

DO WE ASK WITH LIMITED BELIEFS?

DO WE ASK WITH UNCERTAINTY?

DO WE ASK KNOWING THAT WE ARE NOT GOING TO REALLY GET IT?

-OR-

DO WE ASK WITH CONVICTION!

DO WE ASK WITH CERTAINTY!

DO WE ASK KNOWING IT’S COMING OUR WAY!

It’s how we ask and what we believe that opens up the universe to start working in our favor.  I want to share a story of a homeless man.  I was walking home one evening and I was quickly being approached by this homeless man.  As he was approaching me, I thought, “Well what do I do?”  I don’t like to give the homeless cash for I’m not sure if they will buy much needed food with it.  The other voice inside me said, “Who am I to judge on what he’ll do with the money for in giving we receive.”  So he asked like I thought he would, “Do you have a quarter?”  Whatever can he do with simply a quarter I thought?  So I gave him exactly what he asked for – A QUARTER! 

YOU SEE LIFE WILL PAY WHATEVER PRICE YOU ASK OF IT!

So why not ask BIG and for exactly what you want?

–Think BIG and Ask BIG—

The late Jim Rohn who was mentor to Tony Robbins stated that we ask these questions to ourselves:

“WHY – WHY NOT- WHY NOT YOU – WHY NOT NOW!”

We are made in the image of GOD and our creator obviously thought BIG – He moved mountains, created oceans and made each one of us unique and different.  We so often want to stay in our boxes and think we can’t ask for too much.  We can’t ask too many questions, in fear of appearing unknowing.  We can’t laugh too much for we risk appearing the fool.  To reach out to another is to risk involvement.  To love is to risk being loved in return.  To try at all is to risk failure.  But risk we must, because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing. 

Use your imagination and ask away – ask with conviction and ask with belief in knowing there is power in the unspoken word.  Sit back and be in WONDER and AMAZEMENT……Enjoy the possibilities of the greatness of our DIVINE!

When GOD has a plan for you that’s BIGGER than you – no one….and I do mean NO ONE can stop you……

Stay focused and think BIG!

Remember, may the possibilities of today excite you!

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Hello Girlfriends – “The two most powerful warriors are patience and time”….Leo Tolstoy

We want things and answers “NOW!” 

We have been conditioned to expect things NOW since we live in a society of instant gratification.  With the upgrade of technology and our instant society we want ANSWERS NOW!  We’re hungry, we drive through a fast food restaurant to get our food quickly.  (No waiting – well except if everyone else in that town decides on the same thing – FAST FOOD – then there’s a long line and our patience gets tested).

It’s said that Patience Is a Virtue – so I researched this a bit because I know for myself I struggle with having so much patience in some parts of my life but then having ZERO patience in other parts of my life.  On Answers.com it states, “The phrase “patience is a virtue” is just a way of expressing the importance of being patient.  A virtue is a trait or quality deemed to be morally excellent and thus is valued as a foundation of principle and good moral being.  Patience can make us better people.  The definition of the word is to tolerate delay implying self control and forbearance.  When we say “patience is a virtue” we are exposing our moral values and expressing importance of patience as a foundation of principle.  So to answer the question, patience is not a virtue until it truly becomes a virtue and knowing how diverse the spectrum of individualism is, I’m sure patience is a vice (opposite of virtue) to some.  Patience is a necessity for a happy existence and that is why the phrase is so often used.

So with all that stated and knowing that patience is a necessity for a happy existence, why do we “fall out” of patience?  We all do it – look around and be aware at the grocery stores and the faces of impatient people, when you have to wait for a table at a restaurant, in traffic, in the blog world and your traffic is not up from you last blog post.  In relationships we display impatience with our partners.  Isn’t love patient?  So I reflect inward and I ask, “Okay if I love myself and love is patient then patience is love and I love myself enough to be patient with myself.” 

To have patience for others we must be patient with ourselves and there lies the battle. 

The internal struggle with self! 

Thus, the reason why we want everything “NOW” – answers to our challenges that arise in our daily lives – “NOW!” 

By getting our answers “NOW” then we don’t have to deal with any pain, fear and the unknown. 

Instead we don’t have the answers “NOW” – we don’t understand why the waiting?  We don’t understand the dessert moments in our lives.  These are the moments of being “STILL” (this requires patience and time) – when I say STILL, I don’t mean we keep thinking and fretting about the issue we are battling – STILL to me means – letting the issue go and getting out of the way of GOD.  There’s work to be done so get out of THE way! 

In my own life, it’s the moments when I let go and move out of THE way, that is when the MAGIC happens.

These are the moments when we get clarity and clarity is power!  Sometimes you can even look back at a situation and have an “AH-HA” moment by saying, “Now I know why I had to WAIT and be PATIENT.” 

So next time you’re in traffic, a long line, when you can’t wait to meet your new love partner because you’ve been alone for so long or you fear being alone – BREATH – in and out slowly – remind yourself that you are LOVE and BE STILL – BRING ON THE PATIENCE! 

Patience breeds happiness, love, and peace while impatience breeds anxiety, stress and fear….

Remember, may the possibilities of today excite us all!

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True to Myself by Ziggy Marley

Hello Girlfriends – “Disenchantment, whether it is a minor disappointment or a major shock, is the signal that things are moving into transition in our lives.”  William Throshy Bridges

There’s such a fine line between pain and pleasure and yes call it all transition.  I am writing today about pain and pleasure in context to relationships.  As I embrace this life, I find more and more that women settle in relationships.  They’re afraid of being alone, so they endure these relationships that bring more pain than pleasure.  I recently told my “man friend” this statement.  “I’ll know when to call it quits – when I start feeling more pain than pleasure.”

So many of us are so afraid to end a relationship when we know deep inside that ending this relationship may be the exact thing that we need to do to move to a better place in our life – a place of pleasure.  We’re so afraid to be alone, to not have a companion, to only have ourselves on a Friday or Saturday night and what FUN can that actually be?  You would be surprised at the world of possibilities if we could ALLOW time alone and experience that time by ourselves. 

I often state, “I rather be alone and happy than with someone and lonely or miserable.”  When pain supersedes pleasure, this is the time to ask yourself – why would you stay in a relationship that isn’t working?  Have you ever been in the presence of another and yet you feel so alone? 

How many of us have experienced this feeling?

At times we fall in love with the memories of what it was when in actuality it isn’t that way right now or hasn’t been for quite some time.  So we stay because of a memory and you live in pain because in reality you know in your gut that you shouldn’t be in this relationship, thus FEAR shows up in different forms.  At that time we begin to feel oppressed, sad and you’re not your HAPPY self. 

This is a RED FLAG!

Time for change!

The pleasure lies after the pain; after letting go and releasing the negative energy by wishing the other love, light and truly freeing yourself from your own bondage.  No hard feelings because in every relationship that ends there is a lesson to be learned.   A new way of thinking has occurred and NEW BEGINNINGS are about to unfold. 

Get ready for the ride of adventure ahead of you!

Like the song states, “I can’t make you happy unless I AM.”  I invite you to listen to the words spoken in the song by Ziggy Marley at the top of this post. 

Remember, may the possibilities of today excite us all!

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Hello Girlfriends – In Exodus Chapter 3 verse 14 it states, “God said to Moses, “I AM WHO I AM.”  POWERFUL!  Short to the point and positive!

The power of the word and “I AM” statements has a lot to do with our manifestations in life.  Notice the words you speak to yourself and unto others.   Be aware, be observant of these words. 

I recently went to an early morning networking event – it began at 7:30 a.m.  It was my first experience with this group and there were about 30 women gathered around a breakfast table.  I observed, I listened and I kept hearing – “I am tired, it’s too early to think.”  Not only once did I hear this, but I heard it several times. 

We manifest what we speak.  The concept of time, morning time, I must still be tired.  If you think that upon waking you’re still tired then you will be tired upon awakening.  Tired is a state of mind and how can you be tired after having a night of rest unless you didn’t sleep well or have so much on your mind that you are exhausted from thought first thing in the morning.  If that’s the case, then it may be a good idea to figure out what’s keeping you awake at night and get those monsters out of the closet and resolved so you can sleep well at night. 

As I awaken each day, upon opening my eyes I have made it a routine to recite “I AM” statements:

I AM GRATEFUL

I AM HAPPY,

I AM FINANCIALLY FREE

I AM HEALTHY

I AM LOVE

Then I state, “May the possibilities of today excite me.”

I feel as if I am then armored for the day …..

Those powerful “I AM” statements are ways of telling the universe positive statements.  We are creatures of habit, and knowing this statement as truth then we can formulate negative habits or produce positive habits.  Manifesting positive “I AM” statements will produce positive outcome in your life.  It’s like giving gratitude for things in your life – the more gratitude you give the more gratitude will come into your life.  It’s the Law of Attraction .

Remember, may the possibilities of today excite us all!

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