PAIN AND PLEASURE – THE FINE LINE….
True to Myself by Ziggy Marley
Hello Girlfriends – “Disenchantment, whether it is a minor disappointment or a major shock, is the signal that things are moving into transition in our lives.” William Throshy Bridges
There’s such a fine line between pain and pleasure and yes call it all transition. I am writing today about pain and pleasure in context to relationships. As I embrace this life, I find more and more that women settle in relationships. They’re afraid of being alone, so they endure these relationships that bring more pain than pleasure. I recently told my “man friend” this statement. “I’ll know when to call it quits – when I start feeling more pain than pleasure.”
So many of us are so afraid to end a relationship when we know deep inside that ending this relationship may be the exact thing that we need to do to move to a better place in our life – a place of pleasure. We’re so afraid to be alone, to not have a companion, to only have ourselves on a Friday or Saturday night and what FUN can that actually be? You would be surprised at the world of possibilities if we could ALLOW time alone and experience that time by ourselves.
I often state, “I rather be alone and happy than with someone and lonely or miserable.” When pain supersedes pleasure, this is the time to ask yourself – why would you stay in a relationship that isn’t working? Have you ever been in the presence of another and yet you feel so alone?
How many of us have experienced this feeling?
At times we fall in love with the memories of what it was when in actuality it isn’t that way right now or hasn’t been for quite some time. So we stay because of a memory and you live in pain because in reality you know in your gut that you shouldn’t be in this relationship, thus FEAR shows up in different forms. At that time we begin to feel oppressed, sad and you’re not your HAPPY self.
This is a RED FLAG!
Time for change!
The pleasure lies after the pain; after letting go and releasing the negative energy by wishing the other love, light and truly freeing yourself from your own bondage. No hard feelings because in every relationship that ends there is a lesson to be learned. A new way of thinking has occurred and NEW BEGINNINGS are about to unfold.
Get ready for the ride of adventure ahead of you!
Like the song states, “I can’t make you happy unless I AM.” I invite you to listen to the words spoken in the song by Ziggy Marley at the top of this post.
Remember, may the possibilities of today excite us all!
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