It occurred to me as I was rushing this morning at 7 am to my BFF’s house, to provide emotional support for her during a heated financial “discussion” with her ex-husband, all the things we just “do” when asked. We cancel appointments;  take time off of work; slip into small, mirrored, badly lit dressing rooms to give honest critiques; loan our best clothes; tell the truth -  no matter what.

 When called upon we “just do it”, even when we don’t want to, because that’s just what women do for women.  We lie, fabricate, pretend, tread where other do not dare. We become warriors for each other – warning others “not to go there.” We share yucky secrets  (the one’s we can barely put into words), like that one-night stand we’ d really rather forget. We hold each other’s hands during scary biopsies, and sit for hours in divorce courts. We drive to colonoscopies, plastic surgeons, pediatricians, ex mother in laws — but mostly, we listen. We learn to recognize the small shifts in each other’s voices that tell us it’s time for a lunch or a drink or a long phone conversation, even if it’s the same conversation we’ve been having for years. We simply LISTEN – and we never, ever bring it up again, no matter what. We tell each other the hard stuff like “you’re drinking too much,” “you need to lose a few pounds,” “take my hair appointment, you need a trim,” “I ran into your boyfriend where he shouldn’t have been.”

 And we love each other fiercely, instinctively and often longer than many marriages.

 LONG LIVE GIRLFRIENDS!!!!!

BIO:  

Patti Hawn is author of GOOD GIRLS DON’T a deeply personal first-hand account of what it was like to be trapped in an unwanted pregnancy at the close of an era where home economics took precedence over sex education. I gave up my child for adoption —-found him 40 years later…but this is where the typical adoption story begins…and ends. My book is available on Amazon and www.goodgirlsdontbook.com.

Patti Hawn Patti Hawn has worked on over thirty major motion pictures including some of the most acclaimed films of the last decade.  Her credits include Ghost, Glory, Overboard, and most recently, August Rush and Bride Wars.

Patti makes her debut literary effort with her memoir, GOOD GIRLS DON’T, that tells the story of the last generation of young women to experience life on the eve of the sexual revolution of the sixties and the passing of legislation legalizing abortion. It is a unique time in history, foreign to an entire generation of women, that resulted in an incredible number of reunions between birth parents and their children — 20, 30 and 40 years after.

Patti is the sister of the acclaimed actress Goldie Hawn. She resides in Manhattan Beach, California with her husband and travels to India, Nepal and Thailand where she works in humanitarian efforts.

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Napolean famously quipped, “in victory you deserve champagne, in defeat you need it.” 

It’s time to share with you one of my favorite bottle of bubbly – It’s Veuve Clicquot – Her name is Barbe Nicole Clicquot Ponsardin.  She was widowed at the age of 27 and she developed a dynasty.  By the way, veuve in French means widow.

I decided about two years ago that a bottle of Veuve shall always reside in my refrigerator just in case an occasion to celebrate enters my life. 

We must always be prepared to celebrate at a moment’s notice and what a better way to celebrate then with a little bubbly? 

There should always be a reason to celebrate in our lives.  Accomplishments, victories, marriages, graduations, engagements, new loves, old loves, promotions, raises, winning the lottery and of course, in honor of this evening – New Years Eve, which signifies the end of the old and the beginning of the new! 

These are the victories of life…… 

Like Napolean stated, then there are the times when you need it for the defeats – pressures of life, a job loss, a very hard day, divorces for some, even a very bad hair day.  How better to take the ease off a bad day then to open a bottle of bubbly! 

How to open a bottle of champagne….

I have been reading the book, “The Widow Clicquot” by Tilar J. Mazzeo; for this new years eve blog, I will give you a tip from the book on how to open a bottle of champagne.  “You know you are in the presence of an expert when there is no pop at all.  As she put it, it should sound (ahem) like the sigh of a woman when you are making love.  Only in France!  First, chill your champagne.  The best method is to give it a half hour in a bucket that is filled half with water and half with ice.  Chilled champagne tastes better froths less.  Then, when you are ready to pour yourself some of that bubbly, of course you need to remove the foil and the wire cage around the cork.  Then the trick is very simple; you hold the cork lightly with one hand and turn the bottom of the bottle slowly with the other hand.  The key is turning the bottle rather than the cork.  You should hear the sigh.  Until you are really expert, it’s a good idea to put a kitchen towel over the cork, just in case you get it wrong. 

To pour a glass of champagne without spilling it everywhere, you simply need to practice patience – hard to do when you’re opening a bottle of something delicious.  Pour just an inch or so into the flute.  Let it settle down.  Pour another third.  Let it settle down.  Then, finally, top it off with bubbles and raise a glass.  Or two…..

The pop of a cork and the bright sparkle of bubbles mean celebration and glamour, the distinct possibility of romance!

Champagne Trivia:  Champagne wasn’t discovered by the French.  It was the British who first learned the secret of making wine sparkle. 

So out with the old and in with the new and let’s join together in celebration – I invite you to celebrate new beginnings– now I know why the term “bubbly personality” – how wonderful if you are coined with this “term” for it states that you are always rising in the bubbles of life……

Raise your glass this evening and make it a year of changing your thoughts and changing your mind to a more positive way of thinking…..Saluti

HAPPY 2012, MUCH JOY, PROSPERITY, AND NEW WAYS OF THINKING, REMEMBER TO LOVE, LOVE AND LOVE SOME MORE!!!!

Remember, may the possibilities of 2012 excite us all!

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Hello Girlfriends – Today I wish to talk about a topic that was instrumental to me in developing MakeGirlfriends.com, and one that is creating much debate among all age groups. 

Cyber friendships compared to Traditional friendships. 

The difference of opinion goes like this, and please understand that I am talking generalities here as there are extremes in every case:  the “older” generations hold the belief that the world is becoming far too technical, mobile, cyber centered, and that we are losing critical interpersonal skills in the process; the “younger” generations feel that cyber networking is the normal way to develop relationships, and that the “old folks” just don’t get it. 

Well, as always, I have my own opinion on this matter, and it falls somewhere in the middle.

The inevitable and onward march of technology has no opinion in the matter, for it is only a tool for us to use as we see fit.  Modern technology has given us the ability to communicate, and make “friends” with others on a global basis. Facebook, Twitter, Instant Messaging, Email, and Text Messaging have all made it possible to have “friends” that we never meet, and will in all likelihood never meet, face to face.   I’ve seen people on Facebook who have over a four thousand friends. 

I ask myself is that realistic? 

The easy answer is to say of course not, nobody can possibly have that many friends, but when I ponder it deeper I come up with a plethora of different answers.  Maybe the definition of “friend” needs to be updated.  Maybe we can have thousands of friends in this new cyber world.  Perhaps face to face interaction is no longer necessary for a friendship to develop.  Maybe we are better off communicating with each other via our computers and phones rather than look someone in the eye and actually talk to them.  All of these wonderful leaps in technology have given us the ability to communicate with everyone and by doing so we get a sense of self importance. 

We update our various “profiles” with the latest, greatest things that are happening in our lives, we let everyone know what music we are listening to, what our mood is, where we are going and where we have been, BUT, does anyone really care?  Do all of our cyber friends have any real desire to know that we are listening to Katie Perry, that we are feeling melancholy, going hiking this afternoon, and had a bad experience at the grocery store last night?  Probably not, but by announcing all these things to our multitude of friends we get the sensation that people out there really care.  We give them a thumbs up, post witty things to their wall, punch them back, wink at them, and the list goes on and on.  How many of these people care enough about us to be a real friend? 

When life becomes tough are they there to watch us cry, listen with a compassionate heart, and give us a sincere hug as our tears flow?  Only a real friend can do this, someone that we have a real life relationship with, a person that has intimate knowledge of “us”, and not simply the cyber face that we present to the world.  These friends see us in action and are the impartial judges of whether our actions match our words.  They are the ones who might know the cyber us, but you better believe that they know the “the real us”, and hold us accountable for both personas. 

Perhaps the whole debate can be summed up by saying that we have multiple different friendships. 

Our cyber communities allow us to reach out, share information, become involved in  lively debates, and form friendships that are limited to how we portray ourselves via words; our cyber face.  Our face to face friends allow us to use our interpersonal skills to interact with one another on a person and intimate level to build true and lasting relationships.  These friends see us for who we really are and they hold us accountable to our impeccable word by watching our actions.  Technology provides us with the mechanism to locate those who we share similar interests with, but in order to forge true and lasting friendships there is still no replacement for looking someone in the eye when talking to them, and using our intuition to determine if that person has what it takes to be our “friend”.  

My hope is that MakeGirlfriends.com provides each of you with another tool that can be used to meet those who you can develop real world friendships with.

“Remember, may the possibilities of today excite us all!”

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Hello Girlfriends – Today is the FIRST Anniversary of the launch of MakeGirlfriends.com.  I can tell you that I’ve been on an adventure in the last year collecting many stories and friends along the way.  Stories that have inspired me and friends that have added sunshine into my life.  

I write this as I board a plane from Dallas to San Francisco where I plan to spend 4 glorious days with my “girlfriends” in Sausalito, California.  They are Isabella, Jovanna, Joyce, Mel and Lisa.  These are the women that inspired me to create my website.  These are the women that were there for me when I was going through a difficult time in my life 2 years ago.  These are my balcony friends.  I knew that I could rely on each one, and they know that I’m always there for them. 

I decided on a whim to make the cross country trip to go see them.  In 2 days I had the trip booked and ready to go; I was talking to my girlfriend Isabella on a Tuesday morning and she stated that she was having a party for the “girls” on Friday that same week and I immediately stated, “Not without me!”  Sometimes in life the spontaneous trips turn out to be the BEST trips. 

“Spontaneity without receptivity is empty.  Receptivity without spontaneity is blind.” –Kant 

No thought just all gut instinct – the instinct that I missed them and wanted to be there and I knew it was the right thing to do.  It had been 9 months since our last visit. 

When we have girlfriends – either near or far, we should consider ourselves very fortunate and extremely blessed. 

Some of the women I speak to once a week, others twice a month and others we don’t keep in touch, but when we see each other,  it’s like there has been no distance between us. 

I have a friend in Chicago like this – Corinne Edwards – I met her once during my “staycation” in Chicago.  We hit it off and now we communicate occasionally via phone or email.  My other friend that I stay in touch with is Cheryl in Houston – met her while in California.  Your girlfriends are the ones that will be there for you.  Men come in and out of our lives (well they have in my life), but a girlfriend will always be there for you. 

They will be your sounding board; they will uplift you, encourage and inspire you.  They will listen to your pains, your joys and have your best interest always in mind.

Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.  Anais Nin

Every girlfriend is a gift and I don’t take them for granted; each one so different but yet each one so special to me.

I want to thank each one of you that read and follow my blog – I appreciate your loyalty!  To each one of you, I am in total gratitude!  I look forward to the many anniversaries that will follow this one…. 

I must not exclude our facebook girlfriends.  They are the ones that read our posts – are loyal in following our blogs and give us words of encouragement.  You know who you are my Facebook girlfriends.

What girlfriend or girlfriends did you want to mention or honor?  Please leave a comment to honor her…

Remember, may the possibilities of today excite us!

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by Kelly Rudolph

Positive women love to have female friends but we also need a detailed list of what we’re looking for just like we do when we’re looking for an ideal significant other.

Drama queens need not apply and whiny victims can keep on walking because what positive women need for friends are other positive women!

Negative women drag us down even when we do our best to “help” them to be happier or more positive. YOU need healthy friends and I dare say you probably need to delete some of your current ones for reasons you know whether you acknowledge them or not.

Would YOU pass your own female friend test?

In order to be a friend to a positive woman, you need to be one already. Otherwise, you will drag them down if you attract them into a friendship at all.

NOTE: Many positive women have evolved from “victim” or “drama queen,” having done a lot of work on themselves. But just like looking for a significant other, we don’t need another “project.” We need a good, intelligent, supportive, friend who we can be intelligent, supportive and good to as well!

Here are some characteristics I have on my female friends list:

1. Understand anger, frustration and pain must be processed instead of glossed over
2. The ability and willingness to call me on my stuff (which helps me grow)
3. Takes responsibility for her life instead of blaming and complaining
4. Lives in daily gratitude
5. Good sense of humor
6. Accountable / Dependable (this comes with taking responsibility for her life)
7. Realizes an effective pity party is only 20 minutes in length
8. Forgives herself and learns lessons from each mistake
9. Takes care of herself – mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually
10. Healthy self-esteem and personal boundaries
11. Trusts her gut feelings (intuition)

I know that women are powerful and can create their ideal life and become who they want to become but I also know not all women believe that and even fewer act on it. What I do is assist women to see themselves the way they really are and clarify the steps to become who they can and want to be.

Leave me a comment and let me know your thoughts on this topic. I know it can be controversial. I ask you, “Are we really growing forward if we keep going back to where we came from?”

Grow forward with me,
Kelly

BIO:

Kelly Rudolph, creator of PositiveWomenRock.com online community creates a space and provides the tools for women to permanently release the programming that keeps them overworked, underpaid, overwhelmed, and dissatisfied in their relationships. She helps them create excellent communication skills, healthy relationships they desire and the ideal future they deserve! As “Your Personal Safety Trainer” in her company, SURVIVE! Self-Defense LLC (1999 – 2011), Kelly worked with men, women, teens and kids for 12 years and has been a popular TV and radio guest, written over 100 articles and 5 books. She has transformed her own life and is uniquely qualified to guide others on this journey. Visit her blog at www.PositiveWomenBlog.com and sign up for her weekly Positive Woman Tip FREE plus invitations to life-changing, online interviews. Facebook Fan Page www.Facebook.com/PositiveWomenRock.com

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Hello Girlfriends – “What the caterpillar calls the end, the rest of the world calls a butterfly.” ~Lao Tzu~

I presented the question in the title, “Can every day be a new beginning?”  I would imagine the way this question is answered depends on many factors.

I personally choose to find new beginnings in every day.  As the sun rises each day so do we rise each day.  Have you ever watched a sunrise or a sunset for a few days in a row?  You notice its bright colors; you notice the hues of reds, purples, coral; the lines, the majestic awakening of the senses; the awe that is before you.

Take that same sunrise or sunset and let’s create that space of new beginnings.  Our universe gives us new beginnings with the dawn of each new day.  Why can’t we give ourselves new beginnings with the dawn of each new day?

Why do we at times hold on to the memories of the past and make them our new beginnings and then we feel stuck?

I know for myself, I have been in several relationships where it was difficult to let go because of the amazing memories.  I credit the help of my 29 year old daughter that helped me realize I held on to these dead end relationships because I was in love with the memory of what we had together.  Instead of observing this non functioning relationship and seeing it for what it truly is at the time, I instead was “in love” with the memory of “what could have been.”  RED FLAG!

A new beginning then creates a space of love, kindness, compassion for us.  WE let go of what does not serve us anymore and prepares a way for possibilities yet to come.  The key is letting go so we can be in a place to have the “NEW” enter our lives.  This goes for relationships, jobs, anger, resentment, selfishness and the past.  There are many exercises and meditations in letting go.  However you choose to get there is up to you, but letting go is a MUST in order for us to move on to the possibilities that our universe has to offer.

Be good to yourself my friends…..

Remember, may the possibilities of today lead us to new beginnings…..

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Hello Girlfriends – My girlfriend Kim Jensen gave me the inspiration to write on procrastination and the comfort zone.  Kim is part of “The Women of Facebook” group inspired by Nathalie Villeneuve, Kim posted; “Isn’t it funny how sometimes we RUN from our desires?  I find myself procrastinating the simplest things just because it’s a little uncomfortable.”  And I replied something to this manner – time for CZR – Comfort Zone Removal. 

Please know Kim that this blog is not intended towards you or your thoughts at that moment, but you were the inspiration for my thoughts….I am in gratitude to you my friend, because isn’t it a beautiful thing when a “girlfriend” triggers our thinking…..

We can write down goals all day long…..

It’s like writing a recipe for a cake, putting it in order is the second part and the third part is baking the cake.  So, many of us write down the recipe.  The idea of this delicious cake tickles our brain, and we can even imagine what it tastes like.  We are excited about one day making this cake and we can even envision ourselves eating the cake.  The problem is not in our imagination for it is vast, but it’s in execution of the plan.  The law of attraction states: THINK, BELIEVE and ACHIEVE.  Notice that ALL these words require ACTION!

I’m going to get a little scientific here, which required me to do some research and for those who know me, I love RESEARCH!  This is what I discovered.  We have 2 parts of our brain memory system – the explicit memory and the implicit memory. 

Explicit Memory

This is the part that gets us excited about our dreams, we talk about it, we put them on our dream boards.  The explicit memory is a type of long term memory, which requires CONSCIOUS thought – such as recalling who came to dinner last night, or naming animals that live in a zoo.  It’s what most people have in mind when they think of “memory,” and whether they have a good one or bad one.  This memory is often associative; so when you think of the ocean you think of a family vacation, you think about the long walks you’ve had on the beach with a loved one, or you may recall the healing powers of the water.  Okay enough on explicit memory, I think you get the point.

and now,

Implicit Memory

This part of the memory hangs out on the opposite side of explicit.  Implicit memory does not require conscious thought.  Examples are putting on your makeup, driving a car, walking, washing dishes (even though we want to sometimes forget that there are dishes to be washed).  This memory isn’t always easy to verbalize since it flows effortlessly in our actions. 

Now stay with me on this……

Thought energy is believed to travel faster than the speed of light.  The key is to match up your conscious goals of what you want to achieve, with the subconscious goals. This is when there is coherence between your goals, your visions and your dreams.  When they don’t line up there is chaos within your own system, and when there is chaos we revert back to what we know, and that’s our comfort zone.  I have heard it described as having a radio, and you have the radio in between stations, so you can hear part of one station and alot of the other station – this is the message that you are sending out to the universe.  The key is to getting coherence pattern in the sub-conscious level which takes a little more time then sitting down and writing your goals. 

NOW – where do we go from science?  We go right into reality -

PROCRASTINATON GETS IN THE WAY

So, when our excitement about our dreams and aspirations are there, what can possibly get in the way?  Yes, you got it – The dreaded word – PROCRASTINATION!

Well the good news is that you’re not alone – Statistics show that procrastination affects over 20% of the population; actually I was surprised by this low number!

HERE’S THE PLAN

We must identify the causes of procrastination and use strategies to overcome it.  Psychologists define procrastination as the conscious or subconscious avoidance of doing something, and if its effects are neglected enough, it becomes a habit that is extremely difficult to get rid of.

Procrastination is caused by a number of things.  Two of the possible causes may be FEAR and confusion.  So the good news is that if you tend to procrastinate, you have to modify your behavior.  In reality, accomplishments won’t come to you if you keep putting things off.  Why would we want to delay our dreams or projects that we may be working on?  We only have today (in reality – this moment)…..  We all have choices, either to succumb to procrastination or stand up and change your way of thinking and your behavior.  Doing this requires a HUGE amount of will power, dedication and determination.  We all have WILL POWER, so why not use it – let’s not have it go to waste…. for it is a precious gift!

ACTION LEADS TO REWARDS

There are many reasons for procrastination.  It’s when our procrastination leaves us feeling discouraged and overburdened, that is the time to take action and get out of our COMFORT ZONE – it’s time for CZR – COMFORT ZONE REMOVAL .  Action does lead to rewards.  So, as you consider your procrastination and struggle to develop different work habits be gentle with yourself.  Punishing ourselves each time we put something off won’t help you change.  REWARDING yourself when you make progress will!

WHY DO WE REMAIN IN OUR COMFORT ZONE?

1. Fear of Failure
2. Fear of Success
3. Fear of autonomy – “You can’t make me do this”
4. Basically FEAR

Whether these fears appear in our explicit or implicit memory, they paralyze us and keep us from taking action!

TIME TO CHALLENGE OUR MYTHS AND GET OUT OF OUR COMFORT ZONE – TIME FOR CZR

1. Ask for help – Get help from people that support you.  Remember, that’s why we have our girlfriends.
2. Get unblocked – Step out of your comfort level and make yourself do things that may be out of your comfort zone.  I recently did a teleseminar with 2 other ladies and my topic was, “Showing Compassion in the Workplace While Adding More Love to your Life”; the host rated it a 5 out of a 10 – I was thrilled to get a 5 out of a 10 because this was an opportunity for me to step out of my comfort zone and go into unknown territory.  It’s the topic that took me out of my comfort zone.  If I was to talk about “The Power of Friendship”, I would be back in my zone…..
3. Make yourself accountable – Set deadlines for yourself for a start, and be accountable to yourself.
4. Set a time limit – Be reasonable here – don’t set yourself up for failure.

In closing, we all procrastinate at some time or another.  Do yourself a favor and don’t let procrastination get in the way of your dreams, your accomplishments, and in turn from living your life at its full potential.  We only have one life to live, so why not live it at its fullest, with all its hopes and dreams…..

TAKE ACTION FOR THE REWARD IS GREAT!

Remember, may the possibilities of today excite us all!

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Hello Girlfriends – Workplace friendships and can they work is the question?  Everyone has their own opinion, so here goes my opinion….can you mix work and friendships?

In my humble opinion, I say absolutely you can but there must be a level of respect and being non-competitive in this competitive society and it’s doggie dog mentality of life.  Knowing that the work place is a place to get ahead, why not encourage our friends at work to do better and get ahead instead of seeing it as a competition?  Just like you would want them to encourage you instead of being jealous – it goes both ways.  Let’s build camaraderie – encourage each other to be your best.  It’s time we bond together in unity as women.  Yes absolutely work friendships can work but we must be totally secure in who we are as women.  Be confident in yourself and know what we put out there in the universe is what we get back.  Let me know your thoughts ladies…….

Enjoy your work relationships – I encourage them….you never know, you might meet your best friend for life at your workplace!

Remember, may the possibilities of today excite us all!

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Hello Girlfriends – “Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be.” Ralph Waldo Emerson.

This statement from Ralph Waldo Emerson resounds in my heart.  This is the basis of friendships – the reason for those close bonds.  So many times when we’re going through trials in our life and we seek advice from our girlfriends they tell us things that we’re not ready to hear, so we usually don’t hear.  I’m telling you from experience since this has happened to me.  My friend Cheryl last year gave me very sound advice, but at that time I was not willing or wanting to hear.  So I incurred more heartache and pain but like I said, I wasn’t ready to hear.  Cheryl has her own website Divine Effects.  She listens and gives sound advice when she feels moved to do so.

Over a year later Cheryl happened to call me after I had been thinking of her.  The same lingering problem that I was battling a year earlier was still there.  She gave me sound advice, in fact the same advice, but this time I was READY to hear and listen to her words.

It was like an AH-HA moment!  I finally got it and my life is changing before my eyes.  So in life, keep living in your TRUTH and don’t be afraid to speak your TRUTH to others, they may not hear it at the time but there will come a time when their heart is ready to listen and hear!

Remember, may the possibilities of today excite us all!

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Hello Girlfriends – Meet my guest blogger Roseanna Leaton, she is my official 1st guest blogger on this site and very proud to share her post with you today! Hope my readers will walk away thinking……

Do you really value you friends or do you take them for granted?  Everyone has different priorities in their lives and from time to time it is easy to forget the things which are really most important to us.

Everyone is different.  Some of us like to have a wide circle of friends whilst others prefer to just have one or two good friends. When you move to a new country or even a new area it can be difficult to work out how to make new friends and find your place within your new community.

Many factors come into play.  There can be language, cultural, educational or economic forces which impact upon the socialization process.  There are also personal attributes which affect the way in which you build friendships and relationships with others.  Some of us are shy whilst others are confident.  Some of us have interests which provide a platform which makes it easier to bond with others, whilst others have interests which do not involve meeting and mixing with others.

You may have heard of a fun psychological test called the “Cube”.  Basically, you are asked a series of simple questions.  You have a desert scenery and there is a cube in that desert; describe your cube.  That’s the first question.  Then you are told that you have a ladder in your desert and asked to describe your ladder.  You also have a horse in your desert and go on to describe your horse.  A few further questions and the test is complete.

At the end you are simply told that the cube represents you as a person, the ladder your friends, the horse stands for your partner and so on.  This test is simple and a lot of fun…and also very revealing!  I have heard people describe their cube as a sugar cube or a harem tent.  I recall one person saying that their cube was very small and positioned just far enough away from their horse so that they couldn’t be kicked. 

But reverting to the subject of friendship, some people have strong steel ladders whilst others have old rotten wooden ones.  Some ladders are inside the cube whilst others or outside, either leaning up against the cube or thrown away at a distance from the cube.  I have heard someone say that they had chopped their ladder up and used it for firewood whilst another said they just used it as something to tether their horse to.

There are no  right or wrong answers to this test.  There is no analysis at the end.  But I think everyone goes away thinking about what they have said and perhaps worry about what it has revealed to themselves (and others) about their own personality or priorities.  

There is no doubt that some of us value our friends more than others and some of us find it more difficult to make friends than others.  We are each living this life on our own path and have selected our own priorities.  But sometimes it is good to reflect upon our day to day life and values. 

It is good to ask yourself if you really do value your friends enough.  And then if the answer comes up in the negative you could, if your wished, decide to do something to change that.  It is never too late to change.

Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis mp3 downloads for relationship issues.

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