I recently heard a You tube video with Jim Rohn and he had a clip entitled, “The Day That Turns Your Life Around.”  For any of you that have not heard it, I will share his wisdom and the actual video.  Jim Rohn was mentor to Tony Robbins, inspirational speaker and motivator. 

Here are 4 words that can turn your life around:

1. DISGUST – I’ve had it!  E N O U G H – you have hit your you know what level.
2. DECISION MAKING – Time to clean up a list of decisions.  You make lists, you study the opportunities and now it’s time to actually take action.
3. DESIRE – Wanting something bad enough.  You hear a song, a sermon, a conversation with a friend that makes you think.  When we have our walls down, we can then welcome all experiences.  It starts with desire.
4. RESOLVE – Say I will do it and actually do it.  Promising yourself that you’ll never give up.  You don’t give up until it makes sense to give up.

When you don’t allow to let go of your past, it creates barriers and walls for your future.

Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.

Jim Rohn

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Paul Boese, a botanist who lived in the late 1600s early 1700s once stated, “Forgiveness does not change the past but it does enlarge the future.” I pondered on this quote, and the more I pondered the more aware of his words and meaning.

To forgive is not to forget, but forgiveness is the first step in healing ourselves.  We have to start somewhere.  Forgive someone that has wronged us, not due to the fact they deserve to be forgiven but only because we love ourselves so much that we don’t need to keep carrying the un-forgiveness baggage around.  Believe me it truly weighs you down.  How many people do you know including yourself that carry this heavy burden around all day and night with them?  They are the ones that have the bitter faces because they don’t know how to forgive another for their injustice to them.

To forgive means to heal.  Healing ourselves is the way to wholeness.  To be the best person we can be for ourselves first.  To forgive is to be noble.  I often state to people when I speak of forgiveness – “If our Creator has forgiven us so many times over for our failings, how can we be more powerful and Omni-potent than HIM and not forgive our fellow man.”  By not forgiving we make ourselves larger than life and larger than our Creator.  Believe me we are not that BIG my friends.

Forgive because we LOVE ourselves!

Learn then to forgive, you will get rid of so much weight and excess baggage off your shoulders and in your heart; but don’t forgive haphazardly, forgive with your whole heart – mean it – say it – you will release so much and not only that you will feel empowered!  Forgive your parents, your brothers, sisters, friends, forgive GOD!  Forgive yourself for all your mishaps and failings – acceptance will begin at that time.  So take the time to write that letter to someone that has wronged you, or make the phone call to let them know that they are forgiven.  It’s a beautiful thing and so much joy will be awaiting you.

The acceptance and love of self is to forgive.

You will definitely know when you have forgiven someone – when you see the person or a picture of them and it does not cause any emotional reactions.  Believe me its freeing – it’s an emotional release – it’s so healing and it moves you to a place of peace.  Going back to that quote from Paul Boese, our past cannot be changed, but surely our futures can be enlarged by the choices we make and my only hope is that someone can read this and it may stir a change in them in a way that they will either forgive someone or ask for forgiveness from someone in their life.

Remember, may the possibilities of today excite us all!

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by Peter Kane

While I have coached my clients about how to best use online dating sites for many years it was only a few years ago I tried it for myself. I have only used Match.com a few times since and each time I would only have my profile visible for a week or two. A few of the times I pulled my profile because I had met someone with whom I was pursuing a relationship. Other times, I hid my profile because I wanted privacy – I felt sensitive to having my profile seen in the community and wanted to reduce the chances of my clients seeing it.

Of all my opinions and experiences with online dating, when to hide or remove your profile, is probably the area where my feelings have changed or expanded the most. At first, I nearly felt that if I kissed someone that I should hide my profile (and vise versa). As a man who has a strong investment in being sexually appropriate and respectful, I certainly felt that once I was clear that I wanted to be lovers with someone that I should remove my profile. I also felt vulnerable if the other person kept their profile visible when they were seeing me.

I was once even offended and hurt when someone with whom I had a strong second date (which included some kissing, and plans to see each other again soon), seemed to be very active online, or as Match said “online now.” I had another woman whom I became lovers with keep her profile up, and when I asked her about it she said ‘she wanted to be monogamous but she also felt we should be open about meeting other people….. And, if she did become lovers with someone else that she would not expect to continue seeing me.’ She did take her profile down soon after, only to put it back up again weeks later. While I am not the most jealous person in the world I did instinctively know to look for her profile, and when I saw it, I discussed it with her and told her I could not go “deep” with someone who was “shopping.” Her Facebook page seems to indicate that she was shopping for someone with more discretionary income than I had.

I had another two-month relationship with someone I met on Match.com end when she put her profile back up without telling me. When I asked her about this, she said ‘that’s how I meet friends.’ I promptly ended that too.

So, what is right for you? What do you need? Here are some variables I think it is helpful to consider:

-Hiding or removing your profile may help to develop trust.

-We also need to move as slow as we can, and some people may feel pressured of suffocated if you remove your profile.

-Discuss this with the person you are dating and be clear on what it all means to each of you.

-Try to not behave like an addict that is always online. That’s not sexy.

-Remember that we can’t trust Match.com’s clock or what it really means to be “online now.”

-Consider minimizing the time you go online by: Not responding to emails that don’t interest you; Saving or printing profiles that interest you so you can look at them again without being online; Doing all your correspondence once or twice a week; and moving to regular email with people you are communicating with ASAP. I am guessing the validity of these ideas would vary from site to site, and would change over time as these sites change. Do you do these? What else?

-Additionally, I think it is best to not have your profile up for long periods of time. The first week I tried Match, I had a very sweet woman tell me ‘Peter, you don’t want to keep your profile up for too long, it is weird seeing the same people over and over.’ As time went on I definitely noticed this too. There were times when I wasn’t seeing anyone and would look at profiles, and I would see the same people over and over. In general, I think most of us are less likely to trust these people. We are apt to view them as players or serial daters.

-Remember your worth. It might be a good thing if the person you are dating is still online. It might help them realize how amazing you are.

This last idea speaks the most to what has evolved for me about online dating and when to hide or remove your profile. I have relaxed a bit. How someone deals with their profile and how they communicate with me would still be a key to my trusting them (See Internet Dating Parts I-IV). I would also remember to be impeccable, congruent and integral with your own participation. But also try to relax and see life as a global village of friends, who in this case, are trying to find a pen pal, friend, lover or partner.

And as a central theme of my book says:

May we all have “The Strength to Want.”

Peter

http://www.peterkane.org/

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It occurred to me as I was rushing this morning at 7 am to my BFF’s house, to provide emotional support for her during a heated financial “discussion” with her ex-husband, all the things we just “do” when asked. We cancel appointments;  take time off of work; slip into small, mirrored, badly lit dressing rooms to give honest critiques; loan our best clothes; tell the truth -  no matter what.

 When called upon we “just do it”, even when we don’t want to, because that’s just what women do for women.  We lie, fabricate, pretend, tread where other do not dare. We become warriors for each other – warning others “not to go there.” We share yucky secrets  (the one’s we can barely put into words), like that one-night stand we’ d really rather forget. We hold each other’s hands during scary biopsies, and sit for hours in divorce courts. We drive to colonoscopies, plastic surgeons, pediatricians, ex mother in laws — but mostly, we listen. We learn to recognize the small shifts in each other’s voices that tell us it’s time for a lunch or a drink or a long phone conversation, even if it’s the same conversation we’ve been having for years. We simply LISTEN – and we never, ever bring it up again, no matter what. We tell each other the hard stuff like “you’re drinking too much,” “you need to lose a few pounds,” “take my hair appointment, you need a trim,” “I ran into your boyfriend where he shouldn’t have been.”

 And we love each other fiercely, instinctively and often longer than many marriages.

 LONG LIVE GIRLFRIENDS!!!!!

BIO:  

Patti Hawn is author of GOOD GIRLS DON’T a deeply personal first-hand account of what it was like to be trapped in an unwanted pregnancy at the close of an era where home economics took precedence over sex education. I gave up my child for adoption —-found him 40 years later…but this is where the typical adoption story begins…and ends. My book is available on Amazon and www.goodgirlsdontbook.com.

Patti Hawn Patti Hawn has worked on over thirty major motion pictures including some of the most acclaimed films of the last decade.  Her credits include Ghost, Glory, Overboard, and most recently, August Rush and Bride Wars.

Patti makes her debut literary effort with her memoir, GOOD GIRLS DON’T, that tells the story of the last generation of young women to experience life on the eve of the sexual revolution of the sixties and the passing of legislation legalizing abortion. It is a unique time in history, foreign to an entire generation of women, that resulted in an incredible number of reunions between birth parents and their children — 20, 30 and 40 years after.

Patti is the sister of the acclaimed actress Goldie Hawn. She resides in Manhattan Beach, California with her husband and travels to India, Nepal and Thailand where she works in humanitarian efforts.

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We set ourselves up for disappointment when we expect…….instead of accepting.

My Question is: 

“Why don’t we drop our expectations and open ourselves up to being pleasantly surprised by life and the people around us each day?”

Allowing your past and yourself to be proven wrong, while accepting and looking for new possibilities or behaviors that you like; can free you up to receive amazing results.

What’s normal and expected isn’t always what life delivers – these are the surprises, the AH-HA moments, the triumphants or the disappointments that come our way.

When there are expectations in life and these expectations are not met, resentment happens towards another and yourself.  When we expect to be the best and we don’t do our best in our perfect minds, then we disappoint ourselves; don’t get me wrong here, I am a proponent to strive for your best, but the key here is to not be so hard on yourself when you fall short of the best.  To live in expectations is so much more difficult then living in acceptance.  Think of the times that you’ve been in expectation.  Let’s take for example you have a new love in your life or even an existing love and your birthday is coming up.  He comes to you and says:

“I have a very special surprise planned for us for Saturday night for your birthday.”

Right away our surprise sensory goes off in our brain and we start to manufacture these great surprises, we envision, we know that he knows exactly what we want and thus it’s in the bag and we feel even more excited.  We can’t wait until Saturday night we may even go as far as asking a few times because we can’t stand it.

What is it about surprises that we love so much but yet can’t wait to hear what that surprise is?

Saturday rolls around and you are expecting to be surprised.  Remember the expectation has been building as each day goes by.  You get ready and you leave the house and what you expected and hoped to happen does not!

Disappointment fills your heart because your plan was for a romantic candlelight dinner for two, maybe even flowers thrown into the mix.  You are not happy – you expected something else and you got another!

How could all this have been different?

ONE WORD – ACCEPTANCE….

To accept a surprise was coming your way and being in gratitude from the first time you heard that something was being done for “YOU”; instead of creating expectations in our heads and later being disappointed.  Living life at it’s fullest - living in the spirt of the moment!

In optimism there is MAGIC

In pessimism there is NOTHING

In positive acceptance there is thrill of SUCCESS

So next time we are confronted with expectations versus acceptance which road will you choose?

Do you have a story to share where you expected and you were disappointed?

Remember, may the possibilities of today excite us all!

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David,  a very special man in my life, went to Guatemala in October on a mission trip with a team of 14 to build homes for widows and their children.  In a week’s time the team built 4 homes.  They gave these widows and their children a better place to live for their future.  I’m sure they ALL experienced the Spirit of Gratitude; the ones building the homes and the ones receiving this GIFT! 

So I thought this post would be appropriate for this “Thanks-Giving”…..A time when we reflect on our gratitude…..My desire for each one of you is that you relish in life’s banquet today…..

David took this photograph which I have named, the “Bubble of Hope.”  I reflected upon my childhood and how a bottle of bubbles would keep me occupied.  Oh, the simple joy of pulling the stick out of the bottle and forming that most perfect bubble.  I discovered as I would blow bubble after bubble that you had to calculate your breath in just the right rhythm to accomplish getting a magnificent bubble as shown in this picture.  It’s said that a picture holds a thousand words and this picture immediately spoke to me upon seeing it.

I haven’t blown a bubble in a while and I think it’s time to blow some bubbles!

As I look at this picture and ponder on my words stirring in my head ~ I see a little girl with her hands being raised to the sky ~ I’m sure in pure bliss of the moment.  I also see a beautiful little boy with captivating black eyes looking up to the circle of love as his eyes reveal the soul of his ancestry.  I see the iridescent bubble representing unbridled joy.  Joy is not lost; it floated away in the sunlight of his life.  Notice the colors in this picture.

The space between the eyes of the little boy and the weathered hands of the little girl is the gap.  The gap where the moment lies; where breath, air and love for that moment created this most fabulous bubble floating towards the heavens along with their prayers. 

What would the prayer be if a prayer was to be attached to this bubble of hope floating to heaven?

Would it be prayers of gratitude and love?  Would it be prayers of hope and joy? Would it be prayers of happiness and freedom?  What would your prayer be?

Notice the smile on the little boys face, he’s joyful and he is waiting patiently to have his turn at creating the most perfect bubble in time.

A simple bubble – and the joy it creates. 

A wonderful reminder of how grateful I am for my breath and the ability to love each moment  which is truly a GIFT to me.

How much breath will you put forth to create the most perfect of bubbles?  Will you put out with force, for those are the times that the bubble folds and resist the breath? Will you put out with a gentleness allowing the breath to build slow and easy, with patience?  To have patience with our breath and the desire to create that amazing bubble allows the bubble to form and gently move toward the sky.

So this Thanksgiving, I want to take this opportunity to allow my breath to tell you how grateful I am for your support, your encouraging words to me, and for being there to read my posts when they are published.  For allowing yourself to be inspired, and inspiring me at the same time.

You are each a GIFT and know that I am GRATEFUL!

Let’s remember that the only way to find happiness is not to expect
gratitude–but to give for the joy of giving.

Special thanks to you David for capturing with your eagle eye this portrait of unbridled bliss…..

THE PERFECT CIRCLE OF LOVE AND GRATITUDE

REMEMBER, MAY THE POSSIBILITIES OF TODAY EXCITE YOU!

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Unchained Melody ~ I invite you to watch the music video and feel the love….dedicated to each one of you that know love or have experienced love……

If one wishes to know love, one must live love, in action.  Leo Buscaglia

We are all born from Gods’ love – we die with Gods’ love and we do all we can do to find love in between our birth and our death.  Searching, seeking and longing for that true love……we were created to LOVE….

What is it about LOVE and why is it so hard to find?

I’m certain there are thousands upon thousands of stories written on the subject of ecstacy and longing.  Music galore about rising in love or falling out of love and many sonnets written about the heart connection.

We find love, we spend time with love, and know this must be LOVE, and then we do all we can to sabotage love, and walk away from it, in order to go find a more suitable love, for we think the grass is greener on the other side.    

I really don’t get it – Do you?

Is love an emotion, a feeling, a verb or noun?  The road to love can be long or not so long, can be lovely, can be adventurous, can be filled with joy or pain, can be a multitude of things.  I looked up the definition of love and this is what I found.  Love is a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.  When I Googled, “What is it about love,” I found:  QUIZ: Is it Love?  WOW – now you can take a quiz to make sure it’s love! (I’m not sure if I want to do that)…..

Scientists say that the brain chemistry of infatuation is akin to mental illness – which gives new meaning to “madly in love.”

Love is about how the other person makes you feel.  The fact of the matter is that love involves non-verbal reactions – synaptic (chemical) connections within our brains.  Since I love to research, I did some research on LOVE. 

I discovered that the species that stick to one mate usually have a rich flow of another chemical called vasopressin, the “monogamy” chemical.  Experiments done with males injected with this chemical brought out all the evidence needed.  Isolating males before and after mating, he was indifferent to all females.  But 24 hours after mating, he is hooked for life.  The jealous husband syndrome sets in too.

Another chemical is oxytocin, the “cuddling” chemical.  It promotes the need to be physically held, have close contact with the mater, and makes the sexes more caring.  It can be released simply by a lover’s look, smell or even a fantasy.

When infatuation subsides, another chemical takes over which is responsible for intimate relationships, these chemicals are created by endorphins.  They make a relationship steadier, intimate, dependable, warm and a great sharing experience.  They do not induce a giddy high, but calmness and stability….hence the reason why people stay married.  This chemical is addictive so the longer a couple stays married, the longer two people stay together.  It is endorphins that trigger grief on a spouse’s death or long separation, those yearnings for togetherness.  Adrenaline love is being in love with the idea of being in love.  With endorphin love, we like loving someone. 

There are foods that can intensify love…..

We eat aphrodisiacs (named after the Greek Goddess of Love – Aphrodite) to enhance love:  chocolate, oysters, turtle eggs eaten raw with salt and lime (haven’t tried this one yet); asparagus, almonds, avocado, bananas, basil, figs, garlic and honey.  It was suggested by a very “special man” in my life – “Why not prepare a dinner to include each of these foods?”

Now that we know about the chemicals and foods involved in the “love” process:

What is it about love and the longing to have it in our lives?

There are so many dating sites to meet the “ONE” but yet we are lonelier and lonelier as a society.  Here are a few statistics from Match.com:  People over age 50 makes up Match.com’s fastest growing segment of users, with a 300% increase since 2000. 

WHAT is that all about?

Is it because our biological clocks of younger years is ticking away and we wake up one day with more wrinkles and the reality that we are not getting any younger and no one to share our golden years with…..

I WANT A PARTNER/MATE NOW SYNDROME?

 75% of women and 81% of men in their 50s experience a serious, exclusive relationship after a divorce.  (this to me is great news)

There really are a lot of fish in the sea:  According to the Census Bureau, 29% of adults age 45-59 are now single, compared with only 19% in 1980. 

I listen to so many single women and I hear, “Where are the men?” I listen to so many single men and they say, “Where are the women?”  They must “NOT” be out there since I’m hearing the same thing from both sexes; or are they and the real reason we haven’t found the ONE for us is because we have been so busy in dating so many men and men women, that it’s been a distraction in truly discovering ourselves out and working on US?  I read in Don Miguel Ruiz book, The Mastery of Love that we must be 100% complete in ourselves in order to attract that perfect one for you.   Once you accept yourself just the way you are, the next step is to accept your partner.

It makes sense to me, does it you?

If you have the eyes of love, you just see love wherever you are, even in the imperfect – Wabi Sabi.  When you perceive with the eyes of love, you can connect your will with the will of another dreamer, and the dream becomes ONE.  Then you can see with the eyes of an eagle or transform into any kind of life.  With your love you connect with the eagle and you become the wings.  But to do this, you need to clean the mind of fear and perceive with the eyes of love.  If you can open your heart completely to your partner, you can reach heaven through your love.

When we fulfill the needs of our mind and our body, our eyes see with love.  We see God everywhere.  I love what Don Miguel Ruiz says, “But when we know that our heart is a magical kitchen, we are always generous, and our love is completely unconditional.”  I love the anology of our heart being a magical kitchen…..

I believe we have this “Jerry McGuire” notion of love in the famous line from the movie where Tom Cruise tells Renee Zellweger , “You complete me.”  Are you kidding me – why did they not edit that line from the movie?  Hey, it’s Hollywood and they can say anything to make us say, “AWWWWWHHHHHH – why doesn’t anyone say that to me????”  So we look for someone that can say to us, “You complete me.”  I believe a better term may be – “You compliment me.”……. It truly is a beautiful gift to us when we compliment and not complete.  I much rather use the term from the movie, “As Good As It Gets” where Jack Nicholson tells Helen Hunt, “you make me want to be a better man.”

Once we awaken to self and clean up our houses (our temples -mind and body), then the awakening is like being at a party where there are hundreds of people and everyone is drunk except you.  You are the only sober person at the party.  Most humans see the world through their emotional wounds, through their emotional poison.  Here lies the problem of not being awake and aware.

When in the awakened state, your heart is an expression of the Spirit, an expression of Love, an expression of Life.  It’s being aware that you are Life.  When you are aware that you are the force that is Life, anything is possible.  Miracles happen all the time, because those miracles are performed by the heart.  The heart is in communion with the human soul, and when the heart speaks even with the resistance of the mind, something inside you changes; your heart opens another heart, and TRUE LOVE is possible.  It’s in opening another’s heart there lies the chemicals, the passion, the Love that we are ALL either trying to find or keep.

My girlfriend Giovanna stated it so eloquently to me this past week, “almost all relationships start with what can I “get” from it rather then what can I “bring” to it; I believe that we have to be selfless and selfishness abounds us these days….the other part is to choose wisely.  We tend to choose what is familiar to us whether it feels good or not because it is what we know…we change it by our thoughts about ourselves, our actions and constant vigilance of those thoughts…..BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!

WE MUST FEEL WORTHY OF LOVE FOR LOVE TO COME…..

Love enables you to stand for yourself in an honorable and gracious way; with no hidden agendas; with no room for negativity.  In its purest form – UNCONDITIONAL!  My friend Jimmy has a website Life Architects and stated it this way on my guest blogger Angie’s comments on, “Only Time Can Reveal If It’s Real“:  “true love is attached to us with invisible ties. These ties connect our spirits and souls that only we can understand.”

For the MAGIC of love and the volumes written and sung about it; it continues to afflict us generation after generation.

So the bottom line in all this LOVE talk is we are put on this earth to experience LOVE in its purest form – to get closer to our GOD for HIS love is unconditional – and in so doing we discover that HE is LOVE, LIGHT and TRUTH – all the things that we search for in a lifetime are all wrapped up in our Divine.  We crave all these things in human form – so it is in acquiring the eyes of GOD and having your eyes fixed on HIM, then this should make the love process easier to find and keep, for love never fails…..  

Where there is GREAT LOVE, there are GREAT MIRACLES…..

L’amore vince tutto (Love conquers all)…. (Italian)

I invite you to share your thoughts on this?

Remember, may the possibilities of today excite us all!

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Hello Friends – The GREAT news is that for the first time in two years Jonathan Griffin will be the first “guyfriend” post besides our beloved “Monogamy Doctor” Peter Kane…..I came across Jonathan’s inspiring post on Facebook and I was quite inspired by his dedication, responsibility and accountability to himself that I messaged him to write a post for MakeGirlfriends.com…..his story is inspirational and motivational full of compassion and forgiveness…..sit back, relax and enjoy the ride!

http://vimeo.com/26692072 (A MUST SEE VIDEO – AMAZING)…..

It’s a quarter past midnight as I sit down to write.  Just got back from the gym a little bit ago. What a week it’s been! My mind has been processing everything that has happened. The news of being awarded Transformation Champion is slowing sinking in.

Having made so many attempts to get healthy over the years, I knew true change needed to come from within. I knew a “lifestyle” change was required. But more than just changing habits, I needed to change core beliefs.  Limiting beliefs about myself.  My perception of myself; of others.  I needed to transform from the inside out.

The past several years had taken it’s toll on my health and mindset. My existence felt like a foggy haze. I didn’t feel truly connected. It was like I was living from behind a glass. I was so sick and tired of being sick and tired. I was fed up! I wanted to truly live again. I wanted to live “in the moment” and really be there for my family and friends. With a bit of anxiety, fear, doubt, and a whole lot of determination, I set out to change. To transform. I wasn’t exactly sure how but I was certain I would do it. I went full speed ahead.

So on January 11, 2011, I set out on this journey of transformation. I embraced Bill’s 18 Steps like they were my life support. In a lot of ways they actually were. The lifestyle I was living was a quick path to major health problems. At 35 years old, I didn’t want to wind up dead of a heart attack, stroke, or acquire some other life threatening ailment.

I worked through each step and learned so much about myself. I overcame those limiting beliefs. I got rid of those crazy monkey traps. I made slow, steady changes. I learned to forgive others. I learned to forgive myself. I began taking responsibility for my situation. I realized it was up to me, and noone else, to change. I stopped making excuses. I started making conscious daily decisions.

Today I feel like a whole new person. I have more energy than I have had in many years. I am more engaged with my kids. Getting outside and playing soccer with the girls, going to the park, these things are now fun! I just completed my 2nd 5K last Saturday. I would have never imagined doing any of this 9 months ago.

I’m 2/3 of the way to my goal weight. I’m so excited about the life ahead. Living healthy; being strong – what an amazing way to live. I have new focus. I have so much more determination. I spent the last 15 years losing myself. In 2011 I’m finding myself again. It feels so good!

I realize with that to whom much is given, of him much will be required. I am so humbled and honored to be awarded Transformation Champion. My desire is to take what I have learned and pay it forward. I want to help and inspire others by my example. Through this journey I have overcome adversity, experienced healing for past hurts, and truly transformed from the inside out. I want others to know that if I can do it, so can they!!!

Jonathan

Important Transformation.com Steps Blogs:

 Lifetime Intentions

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Quick Bio:

Computer programmer for past 12 years.

Married with 3 children (2 girls, 1 baby boy).

B.A. in Accounting. Studied music first year.

Have home recording studio.

Play guitar, piano, drums, and sing. Write songs too.

Involved in music ministry and youth ministry at church.

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by Alinka Rutkowska

So I was single again. This time I decided I was not going to settle for just an ok relationship. It either had to be Prince Charming or I am great on my own. After having studied a lot of the Law of Attraction material I knew that like attracts like so I made sure that I myself had all the qualities I was looking for in my partner. I wanted him to be loving. So I made sure I was expressing love wherever I could.

I wanted him to be positive. So I trained myself into thinking positive so that I could only attract a positive thinker.

I wanted him to be adventurous. So I decided to go on a trip to the end of the world (to me that is New Zealand).

I meditated daily. I made sure I was the one responsible for my dreams coming true. I made sure I was strong and balanced.

I made lists of the characteristics I was looking for in my lover, I imagined I would see him after work, I fantasized about doing things together and having so much fun.

I felt the feeling of being complete and happy even though he was not in my reality yet. I knew he was on the way. As I embarked on my lonely trip to New Zealand & Australia I trained myself to feel the feeling of being grateful to the universe for meeting such an amazing man. I felt confident it would have to happen sooner or later. Then I just decided to have fun on my trip and not worry about men. I so enjoyed myself, I made so many friends, I absolutely loved being single and before I knew it, I was in a loving relationship with an absolutely amazing man and my life with him is even better than I had imagined.

If your reality is better than your dreams – there must be some divine powers at work.

Now I see exactly what I was doing to attract him and I can spell the formula out.

First, express a desire and know that if you have the capacity to think it, then the universe has the capacity to deliver it.

Then get excited about it like a kid gets excited before Christmas.

Parents see that their child desires something, believes he will get it and gets excited about it. And the parents move mountains to deliver the gift to their kid. So does the universe. When you fill your mind with images – the universe delivers to you the matching reality. When those images are something you like – the universe delivers the things you like. When you fill your mind with images you don’t like (you worry), the universe again delivers to you the things that you most focus on. That’s why imagination is so crucial, from all our powers it’s probably the most divine. And then let go. The kid before Christmas doesn’t just sit in front of the Christmas tree waiting for the gift to come, he occupies himself with other pleasurable things and so should you!

I have a book in which I detail how to meditate, it’s a great formula that always leaves me centered and balanced – the exact same one I was doing when when I was creating my loving relationship. In the same book I show unusual ways of how to express gratitude. Did you know that you can bless slim poles to lose weight? “Read Me – I Am Magical” (https://www.createspace.com/3445296) will make your life truly magical when you read and apply it. And then contact me – I want to have you on my show (http://mayafilippo.wordpress.com/blog/) once you have created the life of your dreams!

Bio:  My name is Alinka Rutkowska and I’m the author the first subliminal personal development book on the market “Read Me – I Am Magical” and most recently, I am passionate about writing positive attitude books for children also known as the Maya & Filippo Series. The latter have been inspired by my travels and strong belief in the Law of Attraction. There is a story behind them: in December 2010 I left my corporate job to travel around the world and my first stop was Auckland, this is also why in the first book “Maya & Filippo Make Friends in Auckland”. In this story the main characters Maya and Filippo discover, just as I have, that what kind of people you meet depends heavily on your attitude. You can follow my travel blog featured at www.mayafilippo.com and guess what the following episodes will be about! I am convinced that the world you experience without is a result of your inner world and that to present this philosophy to children in their formative years can immensely enhance their lives as adults.

Here’s a more serious description of myself, you can tell that it is serious because it’s written in the third person!

Alinka holds a Master’s Degree from Warsaw School of Economics with a major in Business Administration and a minor in Psychological Studies. Since her graduation she has been working in highly challenging positions in big multinational corporations around Europe. She has also pursued independent psychological research. She is a Certified Six Sigma Black Belt – Expert on Sequential Learning, Lean Thinking and Designed Experimentation.

Her true passion is the power of thought, the mechanism of transforming thought into reality and the consequences of this phenomenon.

Alinka Rutkowska encouargement, insight, inspiration, Law of attraction, positive thinking, relationships

Hello Girlfriends -

Dr. Martin Luther King wrote, “courage faces fear and thereby masters it.” 

When we come to the edge of all the light we have and we must take a step into the darkness of the unknown.  We must believe one of two things;’ either we will find something firm to stand on, or we will be taught to fly. It takes courage to fly!

I would say have the courage to ACT and to FLY - you want a new job, a new beginning, a better relationship – why wait? ACT now!

Courage and fear are polar opposites.

It takes courage not to fear! Fear is debilitating, but courage is empowering! Fear keeps us stuck, but courage keeps us moving.

Believe in yourself, believe in your passion, believe in your dreams (no matter how big or small they may be).

Change requires not to fear but to have courage. Take the baby steps you need to pull yourself in the direction of your dreams! You notice I said baby steps – I didn’t say giant steps. One foot in front of the other. The motion will take you to the next level.

Dream BIG- life is too short not to dream big! Be the one writing the book instead of the one reading the book. Write the best novel for your life – write your new story.

In the wind of change we find our new direction.

It takes courage to really live, it takes courage to be open to new ways of thinking. Make it happen, it’s up to you now!

Fear gets in the way, especially fear of the unknown. Can you replace that fear with courage instead? We get in a pattern and if fear has been in that pattern we continue to have fear as our driving force.  How about replacing the fear with courage instead.

Be courageous in doing things differently, change requires courage.

Look within, discover where you are? Do you live from fear or from courage? It’s time you lived out of courage and be excited about life and all it has to offer.  Take the steps in the direction of courage  and start living!

Remember the Wizard of Oz

Remember, may the possibilities of today excite us all!

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